my 10 year old just started menstruating.
our problem is she spends some days at her dad's house.
so we have to think in terms of school and her dad's place.
so my question is what is the best aid to use.
right now she is using sanitary pads.
what other thing is there to use? for a beginner.
i'd rather use a non chemical method. so home made pads.
i would think the diva cup would be too cumbersome as she tries to work it out.
dont want to do tampons either.
i myself need advice. what is the best way to go about it . or stay with pads till she gets a little settled.
i am assuming this question has been answered before but i cant find the thread/s
I definitely agree with pads to start. When she is comfortable with handing her periods, talk with her about alternatives. My DD started at 9, and around 11 was interested in trying tampons. We bought some, I explained how to use them, she tried, and hated it! A couple years later, she tried the diva cup, and she has settled on this. Totally her choice. This is not my issue - totally her call. My role was just to teach her about what alternatives exist.
Rhu - mother,grandmother,daughter,sister,friend-foster,adoptive,and biological;not necessarily in that order. Some of it's magic, some of it's tragic, but I had a good life all the way (Jimmy Buffet)
I suggest cloth pads because they are so much friendlier to the vulva and vagina than disposable pads and, IME, so much more comfortable. I wish I had known about them when I was your DD's age. Perhaps starting with something like this would be good?
One_Girl that's an important reminder that we should try things again. i am discovering this about dd that just coz she says no once (with anything) doesnt mean its going to be a no all the time. must keep that in mind.
yeah i think i am going to stay with normal pads right now. i cant imagine her taking care with cloth pads at her dad's. the soaking washing might be too much for her.
it interesting about tampons. i grew up in a culture where you only used tampons after you had sex (which was after you were married) so tampons might be a future solution.
dd has mild SPD. i am waiting to see how this would affect her. so that will also define our choice.
thanks mamas. lots to think about.
its interesting dd started when i finished. in our family we start early and finish early.
If she's happy with disposable pads, then she should stick with them.
But my daughter and I both use cloth pads, and we don't soak or prewash. They go in a zippered wetbag until laundry day, then cold rinse, hot wash, double rinse, dryer. There is some staining but neither of us care, and we choose dark patterned pads to minimize the appearance of staining.
ah ok. no soaking and prewashing.
hmmm. could you tell me how many you needed in a week. generally. i am thinking 2 a day, plus one at night for 3 days (with no access to laundry) so she needs a 9 beginners kit? is that too many?
the thing is dd does not know what normal is. if i had given her cloth pads she would have been ok with it. but she got disposables at the camp where she started, and ended too.
so i will have to think about this.
how often do you wash them? like do you do a load every day? coz if they are sitting for two days, wont they smell? how does one avoid that? do you wash them with other laundry or do them in a separate load?
She needs about as many cloth pads as she needs disposable pads. For me, that's a lot (way more than three a day for three days). For other women, it's not as many. The number and type of pads she will need depends on her flow.
They do get somewhat unpleasant, which is why they live in a zippered waterproof wetbag. Both my daughter and I have enough pads to last through a typical period, so I launder them when a period is over and done with. I do wash them separately.