sorry i did not write my thoughts fully on the emancipation issue. my thoughts were if a 13 or 14 year old CAN get emancipation, then why cant your 15 year old do what you are setting her up to do. in other words yes a mature 15 year old can live by herself ocassionally for a couple of days - if that.
actually emancipation can happen from both - parents and foster parents. if you can prove your parents were neglectful and/or that you can take care of yourself and that you have been taking care of yourself.
i agree the double standards of society really get to me.
i am glad the weekends are negotiable. i like your philosophy on this whole situation. i can see why she is who she is.
what i am sad to learn is that schools have not changed much in the last 70 years. how you guys are all describing rural schools is exactly how one of my 85 year olds described his high school experience in a midwest rural school.
totally OT, because i know our community college is involved in a large scale project, i would think there would have been more movement with online classes for those in remote areas - at least in the high school grade level.
Totally no reason to post this but for my own thoroughness: our school district has 269 students, K-12, 127 of those in 7-12th grades Had to look that up.
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Obviously I've been focusing here on what isn't working for my dd. I haven't said much about it in this thread but I think our rural K-12 school with 87 students is actually doing some pretty awesome innovative things that are a vast improvement on what was happening decades ago. They have a strong cross-curricular outdoor education focus (they've overnighted in snow caves this year, participated in government-run watershed ecology studies, participated in farming experiences, learned basic ground search and rescue techniques, hiked, canoed, snowshoed, skied, snowboarded, set up and run an eco-waste program that resulted in a mere two bags of garbage being produced at an outdoor event that attracted 9,000 visitors, practiced survival skills for PE, etc. etc.) and they offer some pretty cool electives and classroom enrichment stuff every year: local history documentary film production and animation, for example. And there is a great breadth of independent study options available: on-line courses allows students to take almost anything they want. My dd could take senior chemistry and senior physics next year at her current school even though the school isn't offering those courses on their roster, she'd just be doing them entirely out of textbooks and on the computer. That's how she's taking Honours English 11 and Pre-Calc 11 this year. But it's very solitary and self-directed and after this year all her academics would likely be in that format. She used to homeschool, and when she started school it was for the things that school offers that are different ... getting teaching from teachers, interacting with other students, having a sense of belonging to a community of fellow learners, experiencing a classroom environment. Doing all her remaining academic study independently isn't going to give her that.
So I think there are some pretty cool things happening in at least some tiny rural schools. There just comes a point for some students when those things are not enough, or fail to address their particular needs.
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