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#1 of 6 Old 04-21-2014, 08:23 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I'm a mom of a 14 year old boy, I am the custodial parent and wonder if I should fill in his father in all the details of schools issues if I and his step-father are handling. My sons dad is a bit of an over reactor, so I feel not doing is only keeping things calms....anyone else out there have ideas....
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That depends on whether or not his biological father wants to be involved. Does he attend parent/teacher conferences? Does he help him with homework? Does he pay for a tutor if your son needs it? Does he pay for your son's extracurricular activities such as music lessons and/or sports? If he does, he should have access to information about your son's progress.
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Well, His father is in the picture, but not involved with what you mentioned...he sees his dad only twice a month, and he and I don't really talk to him, as his new wife has issues...but I don't want to seem like I'm lying to him, I just want to keep the peace.  I mean to be fair, his dad doesn't tell me if things go wrong when my son is over there, tells me they handle it, so its not my worry... which I understand, so I guess im doing the same thing..but I don't want to seem like im hiding anything.

 

does that make sense?

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Then it seems like you r doing the right thing. Just don't do things out of spite because it only hurts your son the most. If he wanted to be more involved, he can contact the school himself.
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If he asks, then offer up info but if he doesn't ask u questions then leave it alone, I agree with keeping the peace.
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That's a tough one. Are there big or ongoing issues going on that you aren't mentioning?  Would you be upset if these issues were kept from you?   Have there been issues with your ex being upset that you kept something about your son from him in the past?  Will your son bring it up to your ex? Just some things to consider.  I really have no answers, but maybe you could cross post in the blended and step parenting forum to get some more opinions that might be been there done that.

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