Well, His father is in the picture, but not involved with what you mentioned...he sees his dad only twice a month, and he and I don't really talk to him, as his new wife has issues...but I don't want to seem like I'm lying to him, I just want to keep the peace. I mean to be fair, his dad doesn't tell me if things go wrong when my son is over there, tells me they handle it, so its not my worry... which I understand, so I guess im doing the same thing..but I don't want to seem like im hiding anything.
does that make sense?
That's a tough one. Are there big or ongoing issues going on that you aren't mentioning? Would you be upset if these issues were kept from you? Have there been issues with your ex being upset that you kept something about your son from him in the past? Will your son bring it up to your ex? Just some things to consider. I really have no answers, but maybe you could cross post in the blended and step parenting forum to get some more opinions that might be been there done that.