Originally Posted by 4evermom
Happily, my ds likes to play with people with better morals and avoids those segments of the online world. And he is as careful with the reputation of his username as he would be with his birth name.
Yep! Another way to think of the anonymity vs. "real name" question is that of internal or external motivation. My DC also has an unusual name (I think she is the only person with her name) so that may come into play for my increased concern. But, I also agree that I want my DC to be motivated to behave well online - just because.
I know everyone else does too and that they are looking at the lack of anonymity as an added motivation, which I do get, but my expectations for good behavior are just as high even with my encouragement of anonymity.
Discussing this this week made me realize that I had not really checked in on my DC's phone lately. She knows that I check from time to time and I explain that I am doing it to be sure that she is safe, being treated well, and is treating others well.
I found that a friend of her's was stoking some drama several weeks back and I am VERY proud of her reaction to that.
I noticed that all of her friends use a user name - even when texting.
One thing that came up for us recently was that I noticed one day that my DC and a friend had switched phones in the car. This is, of course, something that I did not experience growing up but that I think is something kids do in our area. I told DC and her friend that my DC was not allowed to do that. I explained that while my DC's information may be public and that she can share her own information if she wishes, that she has texts and emails from friends that I do not think DC should be sharing. Yes, it is all sweet and fairly benign (mostly texts about their favorite books, actually - this includes her Instagram account) but I think there is some potential for privacy breaches with sharing phones. Again, something that is new to me in this digital age and something that feels like a challenge in terms of how to help DC.