Originally Posted by Viola P
First, random drug testing your own children is an authoritarian approach to parenting, which I understand had been proven to create adult personalities that are defiant towards authority and untrusting.
Our parenting style isn't determined by our approach to one, single issue in the teen years. Our kids personalities are pretty much formed by this point by the myriad of decisions we made up to now. They do have the capability to screw up their futures, though.
My DH works in an industry where random drug testing is required. On one hand, I don't think drug testing is a big deal. At the same time, it would make me sad if my kids started screwing up their lives in ways that I felt it was what was best for them. I don't like to pry into their lives, and I prefer for them to have privacy. But at this point, privacy is a privileged based on trust. I totally get why parents do things differently after their kids break that trust.
Id also be concerned that if my kids don't let loose a little when they're young they'll do it when they're old and have a lot more to loose.
there are ways to cut loose without breaking the law or killing brain cells.
As for the legal consequences, I would always want to teach my children how to be "cop smart" by teaching them how to say no to a search request, how to identify a search request, and what to do if detained or arrested.
honestly, that you think that is the biggest issue is a privilege based on where you live. I noticed you are in Canada. I know how this stuff works in the US, but not Canada. Where does your pot come from? Who grew it? If it came from Mexico, then it is covered with blood.
If there were ever an item to boycott because the producers are immoral, its drugs from Mexico and the rest of Latin America.
Finally, I plan on turning a blind eye to small things so that my children can have their normal teenage rebellion without feeling the need to turn to bigger badder rebellions like smoking crack or b &e's
this is the real difference between our points of view. I think that this is a big deal that could seriously impact my children's lives.