Join Date: Jul 2005
Location: Northern Virginia
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Oh wow. You could have described my son! He is 13 now and went from being this sweet kid to being this ultra critical kind of, sorry, but a jerk a lot of the time! I saw that a bit tongue in cheek but he constantly tells his sisters they are wrong about things. He criticizes everything everyone does. He is especially hard on his 9 yr old sister. I mean, she said the other day how much fun somewhere was that she had gone. My son had been at a friend's house when she went there. His response to her was "You're so stupid. You've never been there! How would you know how fun it was?" It was really difficult not to get angry with him and we had to explain to him that she had, in fact, been there and she DID know what she was talking about. It's like right now everyone is always wrong and he ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS has to have the last word.
I have no advice. Just commiseration. Right now we remind him (sometimes gently, sometimes firmly) that he is not allowed to call people stupid.. or idiot and that he needs to think before he speaks. We've also let him know that other people are allowed to have an opinion that differs from his and that they are NOT WRONG. And I make sure not to get caught up in his emotions and I really try to allow him to have an opinion about things without judging his opinion (you know setting a good example).
All that said, we really do have a good relationship and I look at the times he is awesome more than the times he is being 13. He is passionate about many things and is an all around good, kind person. This just seems to be some phase he is going through. I'm sure it will pass.
Married, part time work from home mom to DS (13 and homeschooling), DD1 (11) and DD2 (9) and a giant dopey newfoundland, a crazy border collie mix, 3 black cats and a cute rat.