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#1 of 8 Old 08-14-2014, 10:30 AM - Thread Starter
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Alone overnight

My husband and I have been having this debate on leaving the kids alone. They have been left alone for an entire day and do fine. They have emergency numbers and neighbors directly beside us.

My question is would you leave your kids alone one night while you went to the States (Vancouver Isaland to Tulalip).
They are 16y (high functioning Autism but holds a job for the past 18m), 13y, 10y and 8y

I know they are good kids but it's the mom in me being nervous of leaving my babies. It took me 2yrs to leave them alone while we went to a movie. LOL
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If it were just the 16 and 13-year-old, maybe. With a 10 and 8-year-old in the mix, I would not. That doesn't make it wrong for you... that's just my own preference.

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I have four kids in a similar range and I would not have chosen to go away overnight and out-of-country at that age. We did lots of daytime home-alone stuff from quite young ages, but somehow overnight and across the border (and with a ferry in between) seems different. Partly because it's more of an imposition to summon help if you're a teen who needs to make a judgement call in the middle of the night, partly because at 8 my youngest still really relied on a parent-dependent bedtime ritual that her more aloof older siblings weren't good substitutes for, and partly because I have my own baggage relating to being left as a child with a new sitter in a strange place and unexpectedly and silently suffering hours of anxiety and loneliness (a different situation, to be sure, but I just know how long and horrible a bad night can feel without the comfort of a trusted adult).

Having said that, if my kids were super keen on the opportunity, I might be willing to be persuaded. But I think I would want to arrange with an adult friend to stop by in the evening and be willing to stay available as needed.


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I would not.
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I wouldn't.

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My 13 year old is pissed at me because I won't let him and the 9 year old stay home alone overnight next week. They have to sleep at a neighbor's and come home in the morning until we get home.

At 16 I would be more likely to do it, but probably not with 4 kids.

I would find a college kid or a friend of mine to sleep over.
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It would depend on how the kids felt. Esp ur 8 year old. And ur oldest. I too could be persuaded esp since they know the drill.
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