I feel all the way better about this. In part from seeing DC in them out in public and seeing the reaction from other adults. Also from hearing from you three that talking to kids about adult perceptions of clothing is fine. I felt really badly about putting these adult considerations on my DC because I think it took away from her exciting purchase (the first time she had really bought a clothing item for herself, btw). But I do think it's important and something that I want to feel ok with talking to her about.
I also really agree and appreciate Salr's acknowledgement that dressing provocatively is one thing. It's something I have done in my life (to a small degree) and it's something I think my DC should be able to decide for herself when the time comes. But, I think being aware of various interpretations if that's not the intent is important too. BUT, then we get into sticky territory of what role "others" or "the gaze" has to do with expression and all that good stuff.
I think that if I approach it like, "I want you to have all the information that I have to give so you can make the most informed choice possible" we will be ok.
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