My 10 year old daughter is making me insane and I seriously need some guidance. Maybe some of you more experienced moms can help.
I'll just tell you about this morning as an example of how things have been lately...
Today at 6 am I go to her room to wake her up for school and she gets up, tells me she's awake and "Would you please leave now!!!" So I go downstairs, make her a bowl of cereal, nurse the baby, and get all ready to take her to the bus stop.
10 minutes before we are supposed to walk out the door, I go to her room and she's back in bed- she rushes around to get ready then demands that I find some batteries for her walkman. I tell her we don't have time, that we just need to leave immediately, and she starts crying "I hate my bus driver, I hate you, I hate school, I have the worst life ever!!" " Please get me the batteries, I need the batteries, wah wah wah" "You're so mean, can't you just let me miss the bus and drive me??" "You are so mean, you don't love me and I don't love you!!" The whole time she's crying and screaming like a baby and it's really grating on my nerves.
So, since she failed to get out of bed today, her bedtime is now going to be 1/2 hour earlier (since she obviously didn't get enough sleep) and since she was so disrespectful to me, she is grounded to her room for the evening. She can come out to have dinner, but other than that, she's in her room, no tv and the room must be cleaned and her laundry put away while she's there. The cleaning room and laundry part would have been part of the plan today anyway.
Yesterday was the same way- she whined about stupid crap all day yesterday-what I was making for lunch, not being able to use the computer, not being able to go to the mall or McDonalds, etc. Every day she is like this and every day I start of by being so sweet to her, but the minute she finds out we aren't doing exactly what she wants to do, she gets really nasty and rude.
A few days ago, I picked her up at the bus stop and told her that we will be going to return a movie. She asked if we could rent another one, then when I said no, she flew off the handle- "I have no fun in my life, you don't love me, my life is boring, I hate just doing my homework, bla bla bla" This was during the whole drive to the store and back.
Am I not dealing with her correctly? Does she have ADD? Is this normal for a 10 year old? She is in full swing puberty right now with breasts, pubic hair, the whole works, and I know she is moody, but she treats me like garbage and doesn't care one bit about anyone else, as long as she gets her way.
Ugh, sorry for the long post, I just needed to get this out and I desperately need some advice on dealing with her.
Part of me is saying not to put up with any more of her attitude and make sure she has consequences every time she mouths off, but the other part of me is worried that it will take a month of constant discipline and I feel bad about taking her priveleges away over and over again.
I'll just tell you about this morning as an example of how things have been lately...
Today at 6 am I go to her room to wake her up for school and she gets up, tells me she's awake and "Would you please leave now!!!" So I go downstairs, make her a bowl of cereal, nurse the baby, and get all ready to take her to the bus stop.
10 minutes before we are supposed to walk out the door, I go to her room and she's back in bed- she rushes around to get ready then demands that I find some batteries for her walkman. I tell her we don't have time, that we just need to leave immediately, and she starts crying "I hate my bus driver, I hate you, I hate school, I have the worst life ever!!" " Please get me the batteries, I need the batteries, wah wah wah" "You're so mean, can't you just let me miss the bus and drive me??" "You are so mean, you don't love me and I don't love you!!" The whole time she's crying and screaming like a baby and it's really grating on my nerves.
So, since she failed to get out of bed today, her bedtime is now going to be 1/2 hour earlier (since she obviously didn't get enough sleep) and since she was so disrespectful to me, she is grounded to her room for the evening. She can come out to have dinner, but other than that, she's in her room, no tv and the room must be cleaned and her laundry put away while she's there. The cleaning room and laundry part would have been part of the plan today anyway.
Yesterday was the same way- she whined about stupid crap all day yesterday-what I was making for lunch, not being able to use the computer, not being able to go to the mall or McDonalds, etc. Every day she is like this and every day I start of by being so sweet to her, but the minute she finds out we aren't doing exactly what she wants to do, she gets really nasty and rude.
A few days ago, I picked her up at the bus stop and told her that we will be going to return a movie. She asked if we could rent another one, then when I said no, she flew off the handle- "I have no fun in my life, you don't love me, my life is boring, I hate just doing my homework, bla bla bla" This was during the whole drive to the store and back.
Am I not dealing with her correctly? Does she have ADD? Is this normal for a 10 year old? She is in full swing puberty right now with breasts, pubic hair, the whole works, and I know she is moody, but she treats me like garbage and doesn't care one bit about anyone else, as long as she gets her way.
Ugh, sorry for the long post, I just needed to get this out and I desperately need some advice on dealing with her.
Part of me is saying not to put up with any more of her attitude and make sure she has consequences every time she mouths off, but the other part of me is worried that it will take a month of constant discipline and I feel bad about taking her priveleges away over and over again.