My kids dont want to do conseling either <insert pout>
but that doesnt mean I cant get it myself- Ive found mentoring to be effective -
I also raised my family thru some very dysfunctional years but the last few have been blessed with love and recovery- and it feels sososos much better -the guilt doesnt work for me- I look at responsibility rather than fault- and then take appropriate action- agreed you cannot make them go to counseling but what I am doing now<crossing fingers> with oldest son in house now 16 is saying -when a problem arises ask him his solution, tell him mine(close supervision and counseling) -listen to him reject my solution, listen to myself reject his, then come up with a compromise, ok, we try his solution for two weeks- if theres no change we use supervision and if he gets into legal trouble AT ALL(or trouble at school)- we do counseling, since he believes he is above getting into legal trouble or trouble at school<shrug shoulders> and maybe he is- we will see- he agrees to counseling, then if the situation worsens I have his commitment( I wrote a paper and we both signed it) to do counseling-
its making me feel better atleast, like maybe theres boundaries?
I have 5 kids at home and my 10 ds is VERY sensitive, by far more than the rest, altho Ive not yet seen any depression so I welcome it(sensitivity I mean) Like your family there are things the rest of the kids tell him, yell at him to get over it - but...he deals with it usually- I step in sometimes as I do not permit them to yell at each other...but it happens alot anyways...
blessings of love and recovery for you- I hope to see you post more here, we havent all made healthy choices for our families all the time,many here seem to have made alot more healthy starts then I was able to with my children and I allow it to inspire me to make the healthy choices I want to make now-
hang in there- sorry Im rambling