I was talking to one of my favorite moms yesterday, one who's opinion I really respect most of the time. We both have 13 year old girls. (Mine is a stepdaughter that is only with us every other weekend). We were talking about the pressure on girls to look "right" and fit in - I have been concerned about my DSD, she has been very mean lately to other girls who don't fit the "norm" - whatever that is... Anyway, I mentioned that I really hate that DSD is allowed to buy all the teen magazines (People, Cosmo Girl, Seventeen, etc.) She said that her daughter buys them too, even though she knows they aren't good for her.
So, while I have no control of DSD magazine purchases, this other mother does, but she lets her daughter buy them anyway. So why do we do this to our girls. I completely understand the need/desire to fit in, but I also attribute some of my independence to not fitting in when I was in Jr High. As mothers/parents do we want our kids to "fit in" so badly that we let them do/buy things that we don't agree with. And why is it so hard for us to put our foot down and say, No, it is not OK for you to be blitzed with all these media messages.
This has just been on my mind lately. I've seen this a lot with my DSD's friends and I don't understand it. Just wondering if anybody had thoughts on this.