My heart is breaking for this child. He has some small disablilities, but he's never had such a hard time making friends before. Plus, he keeps these little slights from me, because he doesn't want me to feel like he's a loser. Does anyone have suggestions to help out?
Depending on his level of maturity, you may be able to help him by coming up with a plan of action. Ask him who are the kids he wants to make friends with and give him help to do so.
Finally, it sounds like these boys are bullying him (and probably other children too) The teacher needs to know about it, and your son needs to feel comfortable with telling an adult when these sorts of things happen. Keeping it quiet from the school is the worst thing you can do, so get him to tell, or meet with the teacher yourself, or with him.
Gee I scarecly had any friends (I was usually stuck hanging out with the other rejected kids and we weren't so much friends but at least there is saftey in numbers) and I still felt bad for him.
I don't know that talking to his teacher would help. She can't force anyone to be friends with him and if she gives him any special attention or tries to play social director it may just single him out even more and embarras him. School is just such a tough place for some kids. If he could meet people outside of school, in a less socially competitive environment, perhaps it would be easier for him to form some close friendships.
The truest answer to violence is love. The truest answer to death is life. The only prevention for violence is for the heart to have no violence within it. We cannot prevent evil through any system devised by mankind. But we can grapple with evil and defeat it, but only with love—real love.
"Have faith in yourself and in the direction you have chosen." Ralph Marston
After a incident on the play ground which resulted in a trip to the ER and a broken arm. We brought him home to be schooled.
I remember the day I knew I had made the right choice.... We were at a homeschool play date and he was running around playing with his friends. He ran up to we and with eyes wide open and the biggest smile on his face proclaimed, "Look mommy, I have friends"
I know homeschooling isn't an option for alot of families. If it could be worked out you way want to consider giving it a try for awhile..