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#1 of 111 Old 01-27-2005, 01:23 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Prom Dress!

Okay I stole this from a very mainstream (very religious) board that I lurk on. Down to the very last mama, not one would let their daughter wear this dress. I'm curious...especially in light of the sexually active teen thread (and I am in NO way implying that the two are connected) how do MDC mamas differ in this case? Would you let your daughter wear this dress to the prom?
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Not on your life! I wouldn't wear it. It has nothing to do with religion. It is not appropriate at all.
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Not on your life! I wouldn't wear it. It has nothing to do with religion. It is not appropriate at all.

I hope you don't think I was implying that it had anything to do with the religion. The board is an LDS board and I know that modesty is very important-not a value judgement at all!
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There's a dress there?

I could see maybe .. late teens/college age wearing something like it to a nightclub .. but .. uhm.. prom?

Jeez. I have g-strings that cover more than that.
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Is it a dress or a rubber band?

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I knew at the very least you guys would come up with funny comments! :
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Uh, no.
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I hope you don't think I was implying that it had anything to do with the religion. The board is an LDS board and I know that modesty is very important-not a value judgement at all!
I understood that. I just saw that you said you got it from a board that was religious base. I wasn't saying anything about a value judgement. I'm not really LDS either. My dh considers himself LDS but is not a memeber and I have never been one.
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Not in a million years.... and I think I am fairly liberal about teens and their hormones and sexuality.

Besides, I think she has it on backwards.
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ew! it DOES look like it's on backwards! even if it weren't so gross, it'd still be ugly!

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"If my daughter had the body to wear it, I'd let her!"
um, what a cool parent.

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No, but only b/c its ugly.

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It wouldn't be my decision to make. She chooses her own clothing. (IMO, kids old enough to be going the prom ought to be lol. Depending on the school a girl who's interested in wearing that dress may run into a problem with the dress code though... But in that case it would still be between her and the school officials.

I personally think the dress is kinda ugly though, and would tell her so.

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NO way would I let my daughter wear that dress. :Puke
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I don't want to be a controlling parent... so if my daughter chose to buy/wear a dress like that (and I hope she wouldn't!) I'd feel very disappointed, and a little ashamed that she felt the need to dress that way for attention and love.
I'd talk to her about it, and tell her exactly how I felt. I'd probably out myself entirely from her night (no borrowed funds, no ride, etc) and tell her I don't want to see her in it.

But I couldn't "forbid" her to wear clothes at that age.

On a personal note: I think the dress is not only ugly, but near pornographic and not appropriate for girls under 18 to wear in public.

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I saw a pic of this dress elsewhere on the 'net and it covered a bit more on top--there's a huge discussion going on over whether or not the model has it on backwards.

Anyway, I'm of the opinion that it would be my dd's decision, not mine. Although, knowing her, she would think the dress rediculous--she'd want to DANCE at a dance (imagine that) and she'd certainly recognize the limits of the dress.

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I'd let my daughter wear it - as long as she had a turtle-neck on under it!
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I'd be delighted to be a "controlling parent" in this instance. No, she could not wear that dress.
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I'd let my daughter wear it - as long as she had a turtle-neck on under it!


I'd even let her wear it with a short sleeved crewneck shirt underneath.

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She's wearing it back to front!!
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Thankfully, neither of my daughters would WANT to wear a dress like that.

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The dress is fugly. But if my daughter REALLY wanted to wear it and paid for it herself (no way am I shelling out $495 for that thing), I'd let her.
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As one of the moms who posted on the "sexually-active teen thread" I can say my daughter would NEVER choose to wear this dress. Ever! She is a very conservative dresser, and thinks all girls who dress like that are really stupid. (and other things, but you get the drift).
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holy cow (I mean holy guacamole)!!!!


LOLOLOL. How does it stay over her nipples?

Looks like a great dress for breastfeeding in.
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Looks like a great dress for breastfeeding in.
:LOL Someone should crosspost this to the bf'ing forum as "New Nursing Fashion!"

I think that most girls going to prom are going to be 18 and it'd be up to them. But I can't see many schools allowing it.
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If she coudl come up with the $495 to pay for it, then I gues so.
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If I had a daughter I would let her know that I felt it was inappropriate, but ultimately it would be her decision. She would also have to pay for it herself.

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Q: What is the first think you think when you see this dress on the girl?
A: What was wrong with her parents.

Q: What does the male of the species think this dress says about the wearer?
A: Great there is an easy girl I am sure to have sex with tonight.

Q: What does the female thing this dress says about her.
A: I love teasing nothing bad will happen from this, its all in fun.

Sorry but if you dress like this it sends the wrong message to people that you may not want.

A female can dress sexy and NOT show so much skin. Respect your body.

Disclaimer ALL Answers will be different.
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If she coudl come up with the $495 to pay for it, then I gues so.
That's pretty much my feeling. I wouldn't outright prohibit it but I certainly would not pay for it. And I am very liberal! I just find that dress to be really vulgar. And ugly.
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I don't like it, wouldn't wear it and would be uncomfortable seeing someone I knew in it. That said, if my DD entered school "at the right time" she would be 18 spring of her senior year for prom. If she had $495 to spend on shreds of a dress There REALLY are worse things.

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Asked whether she'd allow her daughter to wear the dress to prom - or if she'd allow her 19-year-old son to date a girl who did - Salazar answered with a resounding no.
Wouldn't let her 19 year old son date someone who did? Wee bit controlling there. Since chances are her 19 year old son has had sex with at least one partner, exactly what is she protecting the adult from (note: Hope he doesn't get sent to certain nations on his mission, :LOL, she'll have to go get him).

 

 

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Impression Bridal Excite and Extreme
http://www.impressionbridal.com/prom...?style=421_376


this is from the designers page

still ugly
still not much good for dancing, I would think

and I am still VERY glad I have boys

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