Originally Posted by johub
SHe will be 13 next month.
Oh my gosh, I'm reading each message and not "seeing myself" in any of them and am wondering "Am I ultra-conservative on this issue or what?!?!" I would not give my permission for my 13 year-old daughter -- or my 15 year old daughter -- or my 17 3/4 daughter to do anything to her body that involves stretching the holes of the ear lobes (or any other part).
I am comforted by the posts that say the holes will close when (and if) the guages are removed.
I view the stretching/gauging thing much like tattoos. For the most part, it is permanent -- unless it is, of course, a very small hole. I believe that teenagers are NOT mature enough to make such decisions -- "permanent" means nothing to them at these ages.
My step-nephew has huge holes (larger than a quarter) in his ears. He started growing the holes when he was about 14. At 18 he started in with the tattoos and he does not appear to be stopping (his next target spot is his neck). I wonder if his mom knew when he was 14 how far he would go once given the green light (if she even "gave" permission -- I don't really know).
Here's the deal I have with my daughter who is 15 and who wants both her nose and navel pierced. Because the nose is so visible and it could affect her ability to get a job, it is out of the question until at least the age of 18.
She will be allowed to get her navel pierced when ALL of the following are achieved: (1) She is at least 16 years old; (2) she is maintaining above-average grades; (3) she is trustworthy, responsible and reliable (which includes having a part-time job).
The guaging would be out of the question. I'd go for weird hair over permanent changes any day of the week.
Now I'm off to continue reading the posts -- and hope that I'm not the only mom out there who would say "No" to this.......