Join Date: Nov 2001
Location: Treasure Coast,South Florida
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ohhhhh I remember when shaving legs was a dilemma <sigh> now Im like...whatEVER... My oldest daughter at home, 14, wears very tight and provacative clothing, sometimes...when she wants to, and other times she dresses very unsexually, it seems to reflect her mood, she doesnt seem to dress for any particular guy, and Im proud of her, I think she is learning to express her sexuality and does so when she wants to, and I think its very kewl, that said I also have alot of faith in her commitments to herself and her ability to make healthy choices.
What appears to reflect certain values to me, may not be reflecting the same values to her, ie, wearing a tight a%$ t shirt and low jeans with her gorgeous sexuality brimming over does not say, "hey Mr dude, come puck me" it says, "THIS IS WHO I AM" "I am sweet and gorgeous and viable" it might say "I AM HOT" but it does not reflect unhealthy values and morals in my opinion,
that said, if I thought my daughter did not have as much healthy self esteem and good judgement I might not be as comfortable with her dressing as she does.
The idea about not piercing and tatooing untill legal adult age makes good sense to me and I do respect the thought however I chose to go with the piercings in my kids' case, so far this means, ears, where ever, whenever -older son did his at 12-is now16 -is now very atheletic type dresser and never wears his, next oldest son 10, not yet, daughters, all of them just standard,
no tits or noses yet, (my nose is pierced tho) daughter had her belly button at 13 done but it didnt hold, I believe it will scar her, another good argument for the "dont do it untill youre an adult"ers - and all that said, two weeks ago my daughter and I (the 14 year old) went and had our toungues done together,
sho fa vey awe heawing up vewy well hahahaha (thats how we sounded the first week) and we are both very pleased. Am I raising a daughter who is beyond her years? probably... Im following her lead and she sometimes has be running at quite the pace, but always in awe-