I have never posted on this board before because I was never a mom of a preteen. Now, I am and I am a bit scared to be truthful. My dh has a 9yo son and we are in the process of gaining full custody of him. Dh is leaving for Ohio on Friday, will appear in court Monday and will return home (MA) by Wednesday, with another child!
I am a bit concerned about the entire situation. I have never parented a 9 yo before. I know that he loves to make stuff (legos and stuff) and baseball. Dh and I have started by giving him his own room, do you think this is smart?? He could share a room with my 7 yo son, Teddy. We plan on letting him pick out the room decor when he gets here, smart or no?? You see I have so many trivial and important questions going through my head at the moment! To add to this issue, I hardly know my step son. The truth is though, in 7 short days I will will be Busymommy4!
So does anyone have any suggestions on how to sucessfully add this child to my family? Also, anyone have any insights/suggestions on how to parent a 9yo?? Lastly, do you guys think we should make a big deal out of his arrivial or should we amke it seem like no big deal?? I was thinking we could have a welcoming party, but am concerned that we will overwhelm him. Thanks for any insights you might have!