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#1 of 16 Old 06-12-2005, 11:14 PM - Thread Starter
 
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For one, he's funny. For another, he's sensitive towards his siblings.

My 6 yr old is at the age she worries about every tiny scratch on her body. She's the Bandaid Girl--hates to see anything that might be an 'owie', so covers anything 'unusual' with a bandage.

She found a tiny mark on her arm tonight she was convinced was a splinter (the worst of the worst! for her). I kept offerring bandaids, reassurance that her body could take care ot it, hugs etc etc. (it was a teeny tiny dot of unknown origin, really. It looked like nothing and I said " I think it's just your skin" and "it looks like it won't hurt' etc etc etc). None of this comforted her, and even offerring to cover it didn't much calm her.

Finally, her 16 yr old brother soothes, 'That is not a splinter. It's a happy rainbow hippie bunny tatoo".

She knew it was not a tatoo, but she perked up and said, 'Really?" and went on her merry way. Now, she's playing-- thinking nothing of her owie. I don't know why she responded to his suggestion, when my own were more likely. I would never have thought 'tatoo'. Bunny or otherwise.

Of course, he gets a certain adoration from her that I do not. Must be a big brother thang.
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Awww! That is really sweet. What a great thing to bring up to them when they are 16 and 26 lol. The sibling relationship is a touching complex one for sure.

Can I mention why I my teen? I figure we could make this thread about that... if it's not hijacking lol.

He still hugs, kisses, snuggles, and holds hands with me even in public. Even in the mall lol.

He worries about my safety and his sisters safety. Always telling me to "Mom, be careful on that chair. You're freakin me out." and things like that.

He walks to the store for me lol.

He is such great company! We share the same sense of humor (makes sense I guess) and we have much to talk about.

He takes my concerns about things seriously. No eye rolling or telling my to mind my own business that I hear comes with teenagers so often.

He lets me use his laptop

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I love that.

I'm going to change the thread title. Here are other reasons I love my teen.

He's funny. He cracks me up. Very dry sense of humor that works very well for me. :LOL

He is *so* nice to his sibs. He esp takes his big brother role to his little brother (11) very seriously.

As I type, he is doing his own laundry. I never have to worry about it. I hate kids asking me where such and such a shirt is. He never does. (Shoes are different story lol)

He loves to read and often recommends books to me. He will also check out books I recommend to him.

He'll sit and watch old movies with me without teasing me too much. My tastes are all over the place. I can watch Breakfast at Tiffany's and Ben Hur all on the same weekend. : OTOH, sometimes he and I have watched Harold and Muade multiple times in a row - which I hadn't ever seen until he told me I'd love it. We've also had Monty Python marathons.

He talks thoughtfully about history and politics- two subjects I enjoy discussing thoughtfully.
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He loves to read and often recommends books to me. He will also check out books I recommend to him.

He talks thoughtfully about history and politics- two subjects I enjoy discussing thoughtfully.
Oh yes ditto to those here too! Ds is my fave discuss/debate partner. We bounce ideas, theories, and ideas on religion/politics etc off of each other often. We do not always agree (duh) and that makes it interesting. What I am thrilled about is that he really puts thought into it. It's neat to see things start to really matter to him.

He takes my advice on books to check out too. It's so cool. What's funny is that he is mostly into fiction and I am mostly into non but somehow we manage to find stuff the other is into.

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I am having trouble with my oldest(almost 15) so I need to do this :LOL

She's very beautiful
She has great style and taste in clothes(not trashy, quite classy)
(I know these sound superficial but I really am having trouble with her )

She cares about her friends and deeply loves her baby sister and is even nice to her 11 year old sister at times

She is incredibly intelligent
She's pretty savvy when it comes to boys, drugs, alcohol and smoking.
She has made some pretty lousy decisions in the past year regarding school and her dad but has made some very positive decisions to get herself out of it.

She handled a crisis with a friend who was suicidal quite well and actually made the call that saved her life

She's actually pretty cool kid...thanks, this has been a very useful thing for me to do :
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Well, let's see...

He is sensitive

He appreciates people for what is deep down, not just their looks

He cares about school and his grades

He is a talented musician

He can do more high level math at age 15 than I can do now!

He shares personal stuff with me

He's loyal
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She's 13 but will still curl up on my lap for cuddling
She's smart
She feels comfortable discussing any subject with me
She gets obstinate sometimes but that reminds me that she's only 13
She's really pretty
She stands up for what she believes in
She comes back from youth camp today and I can't wait!

Oh...and did I say she will still cuddle with me?
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I love my teen because...

She is my baby no matter what . She still will hold my hand at times.
She will kiss me goodnight and tell me she loves me. She knows I am here to talk too. She knows she can tell me anything and I will still love her. She knows I respect her and her opinion.
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Of course, he gets a certain adoration from her that I do not. Must be a big brother thang.
My dd (8) her 14 y.o. brother!

What I love about my teen:

He has such a light-hearted outlook, never taking life too seriously. He tells me jokes. He plays guitar and learns my favorite songs w/o me asking. He finds humor in silly, every-day things. He laughs more than anyone I know.
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My dd (8) her 14 y.o. brother!

What I love about my teen:

He has such a light-hearted outlook, never taking life too seriously. He tells me jokes. He plays guitar and learns my favorite songs w/o me asking. He finds humor in silly, every-day things. He laughs more than anyone I know.

I often think about about how darn lucky they are to have each other. Such a gift are my kids. Sometimes I wonder why I get to have this. I swear, everyday, I look to the sky and say "Thankyouthankyouthankyou".
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Ooh I love this thread (thanks for bumping it up!)

He is easy going, always have been. He is my "mellow" child

He is very smart and computer savvy

He is an interesting company - we can share world views

He has a great sense of humor

He senses un-easiness in the family and manages to set DH and I straight when we need it

He does not follow the crowd

And of course - he is a "heavy-stuff-lifter", "dead-mouse-remover", "high-place-reacher" and "guy-behind-me-when-I-open-the-door-to-a-stanger"
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I have such a soft spot for my teen,ds-13.

He loves to thrift shop as much as I do.
He has big ears,not too big,but sweet big.
He can build *anything* out of anything.
He still holds my hand,sometimes.
He has *huge* blue eyes
He really cares if I'm upset
He is very unique,marches to the beat of his own drum.
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I love my teen dd (18 years old) because:

she's my best friend, but she also understands that my being a parent means that I sometimes have to do things that conflict with our 'friendship'

she lets me borrow her clothes, jewelry, cds ....

she often says she hopes to look like me when she is my age

she calls her 3-year old sister "Love Butt"

she is very loving and attached to her younger sisters

she always calls and tells me where she is and when she'll be home

she is an excellent driver and has never given me a moment of (justified) worry

she is strong, intelligent, beautiful, creative ... I could just go on and on!
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Great Thread!!

What I love about my 13yr old son(and 4th teenager!):
He loves to be with my husband and I. And we love to be with him!
He holds my hand when we are out and about.
He is the best skiing buddy that I ever had and will go with me even if it is just the two of us.
He is a sweet and caring person.
He has friends of all ages and both sexes.
He is happy listening to a book on tape in the car with me.
He is the biggest Harry Potter fan that I know(beside myself!).
He can make me smile just by coming in to the room.
He still plays with his toys, and he lets me play too.
He loves to play The Game of Life, Sorry, Scrabble and Yahzee with my husband and I.
When he beats me in chess, he always tells me that I gave it a good shot
He tell me that I am a good keeper of his dreams
He thinks I am very smart, and he tell me so!
He loves to go to the bookstore with my husband and I for date night.
He loves math and science, just like my husband and I.
He is so cute.
He is my last baby so I am cherishing every age and stage that he is passing through.
I just love my son!

Thanks for this Thread! It was a joy to read and contribute to.

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What I love about my teenaged DD

She is whitty
Very charming
A great friend
Honest
Doesnt hold back
Adores her baby brother (and I am guessing if her middle brother was nicer to her she would be to him lol)

She has great taste in clothes and we share all the time

She is very funny, bright and talented

and I love more then anything that she is here with me and that I choose to keep her when I got pregnant as a teen. She truely was and is the greatest gift I was given. She changed my life :
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DS(15) He is funny, he makes me think, he calls me on it when I make an error, he is sure of himself, he is smart and uses his intelligence for good, he is very intuitive re: other people, he is good company.

DS(14) He is smart, he remembers everything, he is quiet yet funny, he lets things roll off his back, he is always up for going someplace, he is kind, he is fun to be around.

They are best friends for each other and bring huge amounts of learning and laughter and growth to our home.
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