I bought my child a wide variety of cloth and disposable pads and tampons and told her the choice was entirely hers and I would gladly buy whatever she wanted, and she chose cloth. She has used disposable while traveling and was happy to get back to cloth. She refuses to even try tampons. This doesn't really matter, but I feel the need to clarify that it IS her choice.
We each have a covered container for pads. I do not rinse or pre-treat the pads. We choose dark colors and patterns so staining does not show, and neither of us really cares about staining anyhow. I wash pads separately from other laundry (sometimes I'll throw in kitchen rags too) -- cold rinse, hot wash with oxyclean and baking soda, double rinse. My daughter's and my periods seem to have synched up so I will wash our pads together.
Carseat-checking (CPST) and WAH mama to a twelve-year-old girl.