Originally Posted by Irishmommy
Rule number 4: On all nonbusiness e-mails, responding once for every four of his e-mails is a good rule of thumb. Remember, you never know who has access to your e-mail, so keep all romance off the screen and save it for Saturday nights.
All I can say is if I e-mailed someone 3 times withoug getting a response, there wouldn't be a fourth to respond to.
I wasn't allowed to date until I was 16... and by date, it was defined as being picked up by your boyfriend and going somewhere. I did have "boyfriends" when I was 13/14 that came over to hang out.
many are saying, depends on maturity and circumstances, which is pretty much what dh and i have said as well. we come from quite oppsoite spectrums .. he started dating/having sex at 13, his parents both smoked pot with him, drank with him, used other drugs with him too for that matter... I on the otherhand really never officially dated, as in couple going somewhere together without others with us or picking them up in a minute and meeting a bigger group, i've never used any drug, and still havent been drunk, had a few drinks here and their though.
Alot of my dating experiances were literally right at my home, the one my parents liked the best, and relationship wise i did too(he and I are still very good friends BTW) We would go to church together, he'd come over for the day, we'd generally spend the day laying on my waterbed, with my beanbag chair in the middle so we could each prop up on it, on opposite sides, and read for most of the afternoon and talk, listen to music etc. We'd also ride our bikes together, hike thru the woods, stuff like that.
my oldest 2 are just coming into range so i dont have direct experiance, but we'll likley do similar to my parents, talk to them, be open, and most of all... find out your kids definition of dating!!! what THEY think they want to do and/or should be able to do. many of us might just be suprised how little they are asking when they ask, "can me and billy go on a date"
or you can go for my brothers father in laws way, great where we going? ... lol When my brother asked his blessing to marry his daughter his response was, well sure you can! we love you like a son as it is! So where are we going for the honeymoon? bro n his wife "dated" almost 6yrs before getting married, always group stuff with a couple exceptions.
Great advice about finding out what your child's definition of dating even is before you say no (or yes)
thanks for sharing!
(i was going to say more, but i hear fiona waking)
My mom never set any concrete rules with me, just trusted me. I made a few decisions that might not have been the best, but in the end nothing harmful, or even that worrysome. It depends on the kid, some need more boundaries than others, but for the most part it's better to have an open and trusting relationship, they will keep you in the know.
Of course DS is only 3 as of now.. so I hope he won't be getting that interested in girls for a loooooooooooong time.
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Ok- if she must, which I am sure she will, she can date and go out with whomever in groups until she is 17. Then once 17 I guess she would have a curfew and a cell phone and I know where she is all times, who else is there, etc...
My dd has absolutely no interest. Her life is busy and full and I believe her when she tells me that she is a virgin because I don't see where she could find the time to sneak around behind my back or why she would want to.
My ds has been interested in the opposite sex since he was 12 and has had 3-4 "girlfriends" who he got together with at adult supervised group activities. I did not meet any of these young ladies, but he and I discussed the possibility of getting together one on one with them and what "dating" would look like. He felt that the girl would be more comfortable if an adult were present, preferably one of her parents, but I would do in a pinch, and that he would want to pay for her movie ticket, dinner, etc.
When the young male person was born, I had a terrible fear of being "the mother-in-law from hell" because I couldn't imagine anyone good enough to deserve him; I was afraid I'd find fault with any girl he chose, whether he chose her for a lifetime partner and mother of his children or to dance with him to a single song.
As the time draws closer, I've become ready, just as I was ready for birth when it happened even though I couldn't stand to think about it when I was six months pregnant and as weaning was such a non-event after I dreaded it while I had two nurslings. He has excellent taste in male friends and I enjoy their company, so I look forward to the day when a young woman friend will enrich my son's life and hopefully become an important part of my own.
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I had my first "boyfriend" in fifth grade. My parents were open with me and we talked about him. It was puppy love, but to me at the time it felt like real true love and my parents respected that. It was nice.
I think that kids are going to date and have relationships when they want and restrictions on when and who will really only make them be sneaky. I only belive this from my experience with friends who were told "No dating until blank age"
I just want DS/futures DCs to feel comfortable talking to me and deciding for themselves when they are in a good place to have a boyfriend/girlfriend.
I feel it's just not my place to make the desision (spelling errors due toNAK) for them.
I want us to be able to openly discuss sexulaity and their feelings about boys/girls, dating etc.
The 12 y/o is VERY much interested in girls right now, so he would date right now if we would let him. Our 10 y/o is still a little young, but so far, he seems more interested in boys (based on some comments he has made), which will be just fine with us if he wants to continue in that direction as he gets older. If he finds a boyfriend by age 13 and wants to date, that will be OK as well. We will support them both in whatever they want.