UUMom! Thank you so much for that supportive message!!!
And you know, we had a great day yesterday and I did talk to her about it and she said she was feeling crabby and didn't know why she said what she said and like you with your son, I believed her! I believed she really didn't know. She was all sweet and snuggles and asked if we could volunteer with the bunnies!
Make up my mind please!!!!
And I know on that particular day my own hormones were raging and I was feeling tired and vulnerable myself.
But what you siad about relating their behavior to toddlers is SOOO true. We look at it much differently with toddlers though don't we? Like when my little dd slaps the book down and runs off, I'm not thinking, "What have I done wrong as a mother?" I'm thinking, "Oh, well. Tired. Determined. Whatever."
Yet we look at our teens in these big bodies and we think they should know better! But they don't. Not always.
And about not doing things for them to have them tell you how much they appreciated it...boy did I need to hear that!!! I think I did realize the problem myself when I was typing the original post and all those resentful old old OLD feelings were popping up. About my own childhood. My neglect as a child is not my children's problem!!!! They will appreciate the things I'm doing when they are older, like I appreciated the things my mother did for me when I had my own kids. And you are right. I shouldn't do things for my children to get accolades. That's not why I had them. Point well taken.
Sigh of relief here! Thank you! Thank you!
And can I ask, does the UU stand for Universalist Unitarian? I've visited a local church here several times and really enjoyed it. So I was just wondering.