My oldest dd was 16 when she found the pregnancy test in the Walgreens bag. She screamed: "What is THIS?" and then: "Oh my GOD! I'm going to be SICK!"
She screamed. She cried. She said, "You are NOT having this baby!"
My ds -- then 13 -- shook his head and asked, "How could you let this happen?"
My second dd -- then ten -- cried. Ran to her room and sobbed.
I felt like: have I been such a bad mother that they SHRIEK and SHUDDER to imagine another child having to live through me!
I also felt like I was the teen with the unplanned pregnancy!!!
Actually, I think the major thing WAS embarrassment. The "my-parents-do-it" and HERE'S proof!!!!!!
But as the pregnancy went on, they all became VERY protective of me, very loving. Toward the end, waiting on me hand and foot. And when that baby came....OH HOW PROUD THEY WERE!!!! HOW EXCITED!!!
AND what a blessing she has been to all of us!!! They love her sooo much!!!
Personally, I allowed them to vent, discussed that NOT having the baby was not an option. Told them what a miracle it was an left it at that. I didn't try to bring it up unless they wanted to.
As I got bigger and the baby more obvious, we said more. They got excited and talked about all the things they would teach the baby. We voted on names, etc.
It will all work out fine! And it is so cool watching them watch the baby...they look at me in a new way, too, seeing how I care for their ds, knowing that's how I cared for them, too.
Now, I wonder what they'll say when they find out I'm planning the next one....hmmmm.....