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#1 of 70 Old 09-26-2005, 12:00 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Hi Everyone,

I wanted to start a thread for mothers with pre-teens/young teens for quite some time so here it is.
My youngest just turned 13 last week so I am still getting use to him being a teenager. He has three adult siblings, so I have been through this before, but they were closer in age to one another and so they had each other to lean on. It is very different having just one teen(and only one child)in the house.
So if you have preteens or young teens(I was thinking 11 to 15), this is the tribe for you.

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Bump!

Still seeking a tribe!

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Erica, I'm moving your thread to this forum instead of FYT. It really belongs here.

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I have 2 preteen girls- my older one is definitely in the "preteen" early puberty stage, while the 9yo is still very much a "little kid" in many ways.

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I have a just turned 11 yo dd, who is definitely a preteen!!
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My DD turned 13 in April!
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I have 4 children--- Dustin -- 14
Ivy ----11
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My oldest will be 13 in November.
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my dsd is 11 and she's definatly having pre-teen angst.
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I have an 11 (12 soon) and 13 yr old.

We have not had any issues of personalty changes yet, so I can't contribute anything in that way yet.
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My oldest two just turned 12 (DD) and 15 (DS), two weeks ago (they share a birthday!).

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My oldest two are 14 and 11...fun ages! :LOL
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I have an amazing, beautiful and intelligent 13yo step daughter. Can I play too?

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My Dd is almost 12 and my Ds is 14.

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My daughter is 12, she'll be 13 in January. She's an "old" 12, though...

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my oldest will be 11 in 3 weeks - definitely hitting the pre-teen stage. Heck, I have a 4 yo who acts like a preteen, thanks to big sis!
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My daughter is 12, she'll be 13 in January. She's an "old" 12, though...

Dar

I hear ya. My oldest was old from the get-go. i am getting a bit of a reprieve, I think, with my middle two.

I have no idea what my youngest might be like...well, maybe i do. Which is why I am glad for this reprieve.

Hey, wait a minute! What am i saying? Even my old soul is a cutie.

I really enjoy my big kids a bunch. I love sharing ideas with them in such an equal way.

I think I'm thinking about me getting older...lol
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Hi Everybody,

Nice to see you here! And thanks Amma for moving the thread for me.
I will write more tomorrow.

Take Care,
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I think I'm thinking about me getting older...lol
I can relate! You can't help but think about getting older when your child is suddenly as tall as you are. It's fun having big kids, but I sometimes wish I could slow down this growing-up process. It's happening so fast, I'm afraid if I blink I'll miss something.
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Just wanted to subscribe!

I'm thrilled to see this thread. Thank you for starting it! I see so many threads devoted to young children and toddlers - it's really nice to see moms on this board going through what I am!

My oldest is 11.5, so I'm new to this!

I'm going to run now and read the rest of this thread.

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I'm excited to see this too. My oldest DD is 11.5 and my youngest DD is 9.5.
Hard to believe in a year and a half I'm going to be the mom of a teenager! Yikes! : Scary and exciting at the same time!
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My DS is 13 and my DD is 10. They're both very emotional--it's really weird.

My DS wears size 13 shoes, and is 2 inches taller than me...it is so strange not having to lean down to give him a hug! And my DD wears the same size shoes as me...and as fast as they're growing, I'm glad they're not into the "I have to have the super expensive name-brand" clothes yet!

I look forward to the interesting conversations on this thread!!
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Ds is 14 1/2 and dd is almost 11. Both are going through puberty at the same time--THAT's something I hadn't realized was going to happen! :LOL But of course, they each have their own issues surrounding this.

Ds is as tall as I am and has been shopping in the men's department for clothes for about a year now, which is still weird to me. And his voice has deepened--I keep hearing "Was THAT your SON?" from friends when he answers the phone. Dd has begun developing and her moodiness is definately cyclic--I guess any time now...I'm just slightly : concerned about us both pmsing at the same time. THAT should be an adventure!

There hasn't been a stage of their childhoods that I DIDN'T like though, and I'm really enjoying seeing them grow.

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My 13yr old ds is very emotional too. He sometimes has such mixed emotions that I can't tell what he is going to do next. Luckily he is still very attached to us and when he is really feeling confused, he still comes to us for hugs and conversation.
Because he is the youngest of four, I have to remind myself not to discount that he is going through these feelings for the first time. And he has the added feelings of abandonment since his older brothers left for college a couple of years ago. But for the most part, I think he is enjoying being an "only child" for the first time in his life. And we are adjusting to being the parents of one child at home for the first time in 22 years.

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Hi, I'm new here. I have a ds 15, dd, 13 and twin brother and and sis at 8


My son and daughter are definitely teens now. I always see them get caught up in that silly teen drama. They are great kids tho
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welcome Jennymom33!

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Erika DP:

I have a son who is 13 and has three adult siblings...lets dish! My DS is so far a great child, and I am a widow raising him. Before DH died of his long illness, I promised him we would be a team and he promised me the same. We both promised DH many things, and we are working toward those goals each day!

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We are really enjoying the pre and teen years with our kids. It's been fun to see them mature We don't have much (any?) of the teen drama going on fortunately. Ds and his sister are planning to see Corpse Bride on Monday and they are pretty excited.

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Hey all!

Woo HOO am I glad to see this thread! My eldest (boy) will be 11 at the End of November. He's been a pre-teen for a year with his attitude! But he also has this amazing ability to take responsibility for himself when I'm not looking

My other two kids are 4 and 1...quite a difference.

J, my eldest, is really a great boy, but I'm having a really hard time relating to him lately. I don't know if it is because I have 2 younger children with such different needs, or if this is just a hard age. He's into video games, comic books and maniacal wrestling games (not WWW but just general intense physical play that I never really experienced as a kid). He goes on and on and on about the intricacies of his video games and wants to tell me his new discoveries. I've always heard if I don't listen to them tell me about "nothing" (or what I'm not interested in) they won't ever tell me "something" So I listen. But just as quickly I'm "annoying" to him. The other day after a particularly frustrating morning he told me "every word you say makes me want to scream!" I remember my mom having that affect on me at times.

My biggest issue is letting go of the control of what he puts into his body and when as far as food goes. He loves to cook, he loves to eat, and mostly he'd prefer to eat what he chooses (fine). But he's not always making the best choices and this affects his mood and temperment and then the entire family must deal with a moody, ill-fed boy. Grrrr!

Oh and there are the phone calls from friends (he wants to call over and over and over to "see if they are home yet!", and the internet/MSN usage, and he wants to go to the skate park unacompanied with friends...these are other issues we're encountering.

We're a very unschooling type family...but there are times when we need cooperation and when we don't get it, and we (as parents) don't let go, that is when we have our struggles. But really....how much freedom can a nearly 11 year old have!!??

Anyway, that is where I am in a very rough nutshell. I hope to hear the wisdom of those who have btdt and from those in the midst.

Take care all and I look forward to hearing about what is going on with you and your pre-teens!

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My oldest turned 14 last month. He rocks.
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