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Location: St. Louis, MO
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Single mom to Rain (1/93) , grad student, and world traveler
Originally Posted by Dar
My daughter has never had any chores. On the other hand, she has always had a pretty clear understanding of my limitations, and I think she feels that she is a valued and necessary part of the family unit... so she does things that keep our family running smoothly. She's been doing all of her own laundry for years now (she's 13) and does a fair amount of cooking and household clean up. Sometimes I ask, and sometimes she just does it. She can always say no but rarely does, and I respect it when she does say it. Sometimes I don't feel like cleaning up the kitchen, either, so it just stays dirty for a day - no harm, no foul.
She actually did less when she was 11-12ish than at any point before or after, so I think that might just be a rough time for kids in general... she had a lot of emotional issues and changes and all that puberty stuff going on, plus she was heavily involved in theatre, doing about a dozen shows in rapid succession, so she did less around the house.
I'm a single mom (no support from her dad or anyone else, really) and she's unschooled, so we're somewhat unique in that way. I cannot do everything, and that's been pretty obvious to Rain since she was tiny.