Thanks, DiaperDiva, for your response. I didn't mention all the details in my post, but we have invited him over for dinner. He
has an inflated ego and makes comments such as, "Everyone I hang out with is rich." It's extremely difficult to be around him without saying something rude, or leaving the room. He knows everything, just ask him. I could go on and on, but I'll spare you the details. He quit coming around after I spoke up when he showed up at our home at 7:30 AM on a Sunday morning, unannounced, and headed out to the kitchen for some breakfast! I was sitting in my bra, talking to Grandma on the phone. This is my home, too, you know.
I've always very open to discussion with my family, but they've begun to become annoyed by Mom's need to discuss everything in detail. They've had years of it, and feel that they've earned the right to remain silent, I guess. The bottom line is that discussions have lately turned to arguments and shouting matches. It's not pretty.
Mocha, yes, there is so much pain. We used to be so close
and now I'm just an irritation to her. She eats in her room, too.
She's almost 17, and her life has revolved around this guy for
over a year now. His mom adores her, and they always do things
together, without me. I've never been invited. I may be paranoid, but I get this feeling that I'm thought of as "the bad guy" in this drama.
And Barbara, I've asked dd for help. I've told her how I feel, but she doesn't seem to care. She's unwilling to even speak to her dad. I'm trying to be patient, loving, and non confrontational, but things around here aren't much fun. I know I can't make her stop caring for her boyfriend. He represents all that we aren't. He's just the opposite of us in so many ways that it's almost funny. I'm not laughing, though.