Join Date: Dec 2004
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This breaks my heart! Your poor DD. My DD will be 4 in June and I am already starting to see signs of this meanness in some of her peers - one girl in her preschool told her that she was a bad dancer and DD is all broken up over it. I dread the day when this sort of thing happens to my own child.
I'm wondering . . what does your DD love to do? You mentioned she is good at sports - is there a team she can join to find another set of friends? Does she have other interests you could hook her up with socially (either in or outside of school) to meet new kids?
Can you speak with her teacher(s)? Perhaps there are things her teacher could do to mitigate the effect this might have on her in school. For example - if she is chronically left out in the classroom, not setting up situations where kids choose their own partners for projects, but rather assigning them.
Help DD think out how to handle specific situations - - such as lunch hour. Perhaps you could also help her think of specific comebacks to unkind remarks (something like this happened to me in 8th grade and I had a store house of snappy comebacks that I had painstakingly thought up and practiced in advance, and boy, did they work! In my experience bullies often sense weakness and go for the jugular when they think someone is vulnerable. For me, having snappy comebacks at the ready was very helpful in seeming unruffled.)
I honestly have no wise advice, but I will be watching this thread to see what the other BTDT mamas have to say. Good luck, mama, this is hard stuff!
Mama to 2 mopheaded rascals