Join Date: May 2002
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I wondered if anyone had and words of wisdom or advice for me.
I have three kids--Matthew 12, Samantha 9, Emma 6. Right now I am having such a wonderful time parenting them. The baby and toddler years were precious--my breastfeeding memories are something I will always treasure. But at the same time, I am enjoying right now--interacting with them without so much struggle (tantrums are over), and love talking with them and treating them like more grown up kids. Trips are more fun, I am able to sleep in on the weekends a little, and life is just right with them right now.
That is where I start to worry. I love right now--the kids are still young enough that they want to hang out with us all the time. We go exploring in the city together, laugh and watch movies together, play games, etc...And my 12 year old son still hugs me all the time and tells me he loves me. I know it will not always be this way--I accept that.
But a few nights ago I started thinking about how fast this is going, and that in 10 years my son will be 22 and not living here anymore. He will be off at college--probably almost done with college. Then I realized that my daughter Samantha will also not be her in our house--she will be 19! I can't even fathom not living with my kids anymore--even though it is obviously inevitable.
I know the goal of parenting is to raise healthy, well-loved, independent adults--I get that. But in my heart I love them so much and feel like it is one of life's cruelties that I can love these people so much, yet they are transient in my life. It is sort of like if I knew my husband was only going to live with me for x number of years, and the clock was counting down each day before it would be time for him to move out and move on. That would be horrendous! Yet that is how it is with the kids--we are on a timeclock of them leaving, and that scares me.
What are your thoughts on this matter? Thanks for reading.