I need some hugs from families who have been through this with a teen...please tell me it will be OK someday...
We closed on our first new house yesterday. We are moving about an hour and a half north from where we currently live. We are moving from intense suburban sprawl just outside Providence RI, to a small rural town in MA. This is a wonderful, healthy move for the family.
Our plan was to move next summer, but we were forced to move from where we have lived for 12 years by the landlord. He wants to let his son and wife have this house. We went from getting an eviction letter, to closing on the house in 6 weeks.
DS1, 12 years old and soon to be 13, is miserable. He hates the new house, hates the town, hates having to leave the only place he has ever called home and move to what he feels is the other side of the planet. Nothing about the move is positive to him. We will be closer to a lot of things he loves to do (kayak, hike, snowboard), we will be able to get a dog, and he will be attending a home school co-op located on a working farm. Still, to him it all sucks. Three months ago he would have thought it all wonderful. He is usually a 'glass half empty' kind of kid anyhow, and this sudden move has him even more glum.
I have been letting him vent to me, letting him tell me how gross the new house is (it's not) how bad the yard is (it is half an acre of woods
fer crying out loud!) how the town is full of hicks and looks like something from a old horror movie (it is an older mill town full of mom and pop stores). I am trying to put a positive spin on things, nothing is helping.
I understand why this is hard for him. I moved at the same age. I guess I am looking for any advise you can give on how to help him.
Were your kids like this?
Does he just need time?
We will be moved into the new house by June 1st.
He will be staying with an aunt for 2 weeks while he finishes the school year (his choice)
It will get better, right????