We told her she had a doctor appointment and took her in. She looked a bit nervous as the doors closed and locked behind her, but went on through to the other room when asked.
When told what was taking place, she jumped up screaming that she hates us. She ran to the other side of the room, screaming and crying.
Once she calmed down and we started going through the admit process, she was hateful, making rude comments, telling them that she was being abused emotionally and mentally. She refused to talk to us or say goodbye.
They will be doing a tox screen and basic bloodwork, including a pregnancy test. No meds at this time - not sure if we want any at all. Only if needed and they cannot give anything without contacting us.
I have to go back tonight and take her clothes and other things.
This has been so hard. I had to lie to her to get her there.... Me who always tells her how important the truth is...
They have her on high precautions. No shoes, no belts, 10 minute bed checks at night ad a few other things to help keep her safe.
They are putting her in a section away from other kids due to her aggression issues also putting her on a two staff member ratio.
My heart is heavy, aching and breaking. I pray I am doing the right thing...
Originally Posted by JanisB
This is going to be one of the hardest things. I know she will be angry with me and possibly hate me for some time. I just cannot sit back and watch her destroy herself.
We can visit every night. Family therapy twice a week. Call daily. After she earns the ability, she can have home visits and then weekend visits.
It is obvious she is hurting terribly over her sisters death. you cannot fix that. and it is not your fault. the bi-polar is not your fault, the death of your dd is not your fault, and the fall out from that is not your fault. its not like you are sitting around on your butt. you are trying everything. the time came for calling the police and that was ok. the time came for her to find a place to cool off and that was ok too. and now the time has come for some most serious help. and that is ok too.
The truest answer to violence is love. The truest answer to death is life. The only prevention for violence is for the heart to have no violence within it. We cannot prevent evil through any system devised by mankind. But we can grapple with evil and defeat it, but only with love—real love.
I've been following this thread. It really hit home a few weeks ago when I lost my cousin. If my aunt and uncle had been able to see into his thoughts, intervention would have followed instead of the path he took. I think you're doing right by your daughter and one day she'll look back and understand that.
I'm so sorry for your loss. So very sorry...
If you would like more information on suicide survivor groups or on Compassionate Friends ( a group for bereaved parents) for yourself or aunt and uncle, let me know. I'll send it to you.
I hope she will respond well to the help you are getting for her. I understand how difficult that must have been for you to go against your instincts and lie to her in order to be able to take her there. From everything I've read here, I am really admiring your handling of the situation - it seems to me you are doing everything you can to help her.
I'm glad you could finally get her placed in the inpatient situation. I hope you are able to relax a little, and do something to take care of yourself now. (I know you still have a lot on your plate!)