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My DD is almost 11 and wants to shave...you all might help her get her way lol I have been saying no, but she is going into sixth grade...and I don't want her to feel ackward, and summer is coming (I think lol...freezing in MI LOL)! So what age was your DD or yourself when you shaved? Thanks!






EDITED: I let her shave...she thanks all you mamas from the bottom of her heart Can anyone recommend a razor for her?

She is using mine and she is just hacking up her legs...

Those who let their daughters shave, what razor do they use? Thanks!!!
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My daughter was 11.

I think you should let her shave this summer at least.

I bought the shick intuition. The kind with a bar of soap around the blade. SHe hasn't cut herself with that one yet.

WHen my daughter was 11, she was dancing in competitions. I was having her armpits waxed at first. She liked that the best, because it didn't hurt, and the hair stayed gone for a month. But, after competition, I started having her shave instead.
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My dd is 12 and uses Nair just on the underarms. She doesn't feel uncomfortable with leg hair yet (yay me!) and I'm glad.
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my mom didnt let me shave till I was almost 16 boy did that create some issues.

 
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My daughter is twelve and in sixth grade. She started shaving this year, when she started having to change for gym.
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I started at 11, when the other girls made fun of me it was horribly embarassing and we can all get into the sexuality debate but at that age, being different can be hard.

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I started at 10 when other girls started making fun of me. Thankfully my DD (11 next month) hasn't been teased yet, but I'll let her shave any time she wants now.

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So what age was your DD or yourself when you shaved? Thanks!
When she can make an informed and educated decision. I didn't shave until I was 23, and it was after my bf made a comment, he actually did the shaving because I said I wouldn't and if he wanted shaved legs, he would have to do it himself, so he did.

I will not raise my children to feel ashamed about how their bodies naturally are, and if they say they are being teased at school, I will raise the roof and every student will learn how to be respectful of each other.
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She was 11.

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My DD is almost 11 and wants to shave...you all might help her get her way lol I have been saying no, but she is going into sixth grade...and I don't want her to feel ackward, and summer is coming (I think lol...freezing in MI LOL)! So what age was your DD or yourself when you shaved? Thanks!
My dd was 12, but if she had wanted to at 11 that would have been fine with me.
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My DD is WAY far from there (4)... but I was 11 back in the day!
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Someone told her she looked like the "tree girls" in the movie "Without a paddle" (I guess they make a joke and show these girls with extreme leg hair)...kids can be cruel!!!!!!!

I just want her to understand that if she starts....it's an ongoing process, not that she can't ever stop...but if they tease her for the natural hair on her legs now, imagine how they will tease if she forgets to shave and is all stubbly!!!

Thanks for all the insight.....I am going to talk with her tomorrow and make the decision She is probably going to love all of you ladies, you'll probably wake up to a THANK YOU POST from my dd HAHAHA!!!!! Thanks again!!!!!!!!
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When my girls ask they will be allowed. I remember a girl getting teased serverly about it and I don't think the teasing or any other reason is worth a battle.
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From the replies, I am gathering no one has even questioned or researched as to why we have hair in the first place.

Or the history behind shaving and child sexual abuse.

the only female without hair, is the child female. I will not do that to my daughters.
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What is the history behind shaving and child sexual abuse?

As for me... well, my daughters are still very young so we haven't dealt with it yet. I do remember starting to shave myself, though, and felt very conflicted about it. It was like it was calling attention to the fact that I was sexually maturing. I felt like this was an adult thing I was being expected to do, that it somehow sexualized me before I was ready to be sexual.
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the only female without hair, is the child female. I will not do that to my daughters.
my step mom and all the women in her family have naturaly hairless legs, and i know many women around the world do. i don't shave and if i ever have a duaghter i hope she won't shave, it feels unnatural to me, but if she wants to shave when she is ten or eleven i will probably let her, at 11 or 12 i started shaving and at 14 i stopped shaving and have shaved a few times since, i'm 27 now, i would rather my child get to decide than for me to decide for her

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I'm new here but chiming in on the subject. Both my daughters were about 12 when they started...it really wasn't much of an issue here.
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What is the history behind shaving and child sexual abuse?
Shaving did not become 'popular' until laws were put into effect that protected our children. It was then that some men decided to make women shave so they would be more child-like.

Growing hair is a time to celebrate becoming a woman and should not be a time to feel ashamed of becoming a woman.

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my step mom and all the women in her family have naturaly hairless legs, and i know many women around the world do.
Yes, that is true. But for the women who do have hair, there is no reason to make them ashamed or feel bad for what nature intended. Also, hair is a first line of defense against disease. It protects from cold or heat. There are reasons it is there.
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i would rather my child get to decide than for me to decide for her
I would not stop my daughters from shaving. I was saying that I will not condone making them feel ashamed for having hair.
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I don't think anyone here has "made" their daughters feel ashamed of having hair. I haven't read any of that, and it doesn't seem that anyone forced her daughter to start shaving. However, in the culture in which my daughter and I live, hairy legs (and armpits) are generally considered unattractive. Forbidding a girl to shave at such an emotionally vulnerable age and thereby forcing her to look "ugly", according to mainstream America... well, that's not a choice I'd make.

My daughter was 11, and I did encourage her to wait, but in the end it came down to her decision...

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I don't think anyone here has "made" their daughters feel ashamed of having hair.
I understand your point. It is the underlying message these young girls are getting, though, that has me concerned.
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My daughter started shaving around 11. I was opposed to it (I don't shave very often) and she has blonde hair so you could hardly even see it and I didn't want it to grow in darker!!! But my mom and my sister were all for it, they didn't want her to get teased and all that...so alas she started shaving. Now that I look back, it wasn't really that big of a deal but I wish she would have waited. Kids have a lot of pressure and that was a battle I chose not to fight. Good luck in whatever you decide and I think the more we fight against it the more they want to do it...too bad society makes us feel like we have to shave!!
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DD still does not shave very often. Every once in while she'll break out the electic razor for whatever reason. It's not a big deal around here whether she does or does not shave.
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My dd is 12 and I just let her start this year. She could have done so a year or two ago but I didnt feel comfortable with it. She was ready and I explained to her how to shave by just showing her the razor and how to move it, etc. gently. I didn't actually 'show' her how to really do it... she did just fine without me. My mother never taught me and the first time I tried without her knowing I cut my leg badly... I didn't want that to happen to DD.

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I was 12 when I started shaving. I discovered waxing around 16 and wished I had sooner. When my dd wants to start shaving, I'll introduce her to waxing.
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Re: can't stop once you start --
I dunno, I'm sort of an on-again off-again leg shaver myself. Sometimes I feel like I want my legs to be hair-free, but most of the time I just don't care about it. I'm a fairly hairy person, and I'm not blond, so it's not that the hair on my legs is inconspicuous -- if it were, I doubt I would ever shave it.

I guess my advice would be to try to continue to make your daughter happy with what she is, but not to make too big a deal out of shaving. It is just hair, after all. If she wants to shave it off, no biggy. If she decides to stop shaving it off later on, also, no biggy. I wouldn't pile on a lot of pressure about how starting shaving is a major decision in life, once you start, can't go back, anything like that. It's just hair.
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Re: can't stop once you start --
I dunno, I'm sort of an on-again off-again leg shaver myself. Sometimes I feel like I want my legs to be hair-free, but most of the time I just don't care about it. I'm a fairly hairy person, and I'm not blond, so it's not that the hair on my legs is inconspicuous -- if it were, I doubt I would ever shave it.

I guess my advice would be to try to continue to make your daughter happy with what she is, but not to make too big a deal out of shaving. It is just hair, after all. If she wants to shave it off, no biggy. If she decides to stop shaving it off later on, also, no biggy. I wouldn't pile on a lot of pressure about how starting shaving is a major decision in life, once you start, can't go back, anything like that. It's just hair.
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I just asked my 13 yr old if any of her friends shave and if she wanted to - They all do but she doesn't care about it and said she'd do whatever I wanted. I have "issues" with hair (lots of dark hair - teased for hairy legs & arms) so I'm pleased to see she doesn't buy into any ideas on how she should look (she does have blonde hair so its not too noticable). Hopefully no one says anything bad to her!
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Well I dont have a DD that age yet, but I was 9 when I tried it behind my moms back. Ended up cutting myself cuz she had those disposable razors... : After that I waited until I was almost 11 because that's when the comments started coming about hairy legs yadda yadda... Once I hit 14 I went from shaving almost religiously to shaving only in the summer/spring and found out that I wasn't the only middle school girl to not shave in winter. Once I met DH (I was 18) it slowly changed to me shaving very rarely... when I'm getting close to matching him in hair length!! or when I'll be wearing shorts or skirts.

I think over time if she really isn't too into it it'll trickle down to rarely or nothing like me.

Just let her know that she can, but at any time se can also stop and it isn't going to change who she is inside.

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Shaving/hair trimming can have benifits MITBs. Hair can keep moisture closer to the body and if you are prone to yeast infection this can be a nightmare. I take pro-abotics but in the summer if I don't trim I get yeast infections. I nor my oldest daughter can sit in a wet bathingsuit either. When my brother was in the gulf he had to take up trimming his body hair to prevent yeast. And my dad came back from the gulf with a nasty yeast infection hair trimming might help prevent/tame but nobody told him.

There are many histories of shaving in different cultures and people have been doing it for thousands of years for different reasons.
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