My son, age 9, when reprimanded or frustrated will launch into a litany of "I hate myself," "I'm stupid." "I wish I were dead." "I wish I were never born, etc." When he told me seriously a few weeks ago that our hamster wouldn't care if he died, I made an appointment with a therapist. The therapist said that that although teenagers have difficult issues, around age 9 is a hard time for kids. We've only been to the therapist a few times but one thing he did was to tell my son in a humorous way that the only reason to get that mad at yourself is if you do something truly horrible (He made up some ridiculous scenarios--running over a lady and her 11 kids with the car, etc.) When I see he's getting into a tizzy, I ask him if the problem is as big as our bogus scenarios and he usually smiles and relaxes a bit. I don't know if it's a permanent solution or not but I hope the therapist has more tricks up his sleeve. If you can, you might want to see a good child or family therapist now while your son is small and his problems are still relatively small and uncomplicated.