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Originally Posted by Marsupialmom
I also would make him pay rent and if that means eviction, that means eviction
Originally Posted by mommy68
But he's ONLY 19 years old?? He might be considered a man by many laws, but he is still a "teen"ager at this point. He needs guidance from other adults around him that can show him how to make the right decisions and how to live right (including his parents). I see nothing wrong with him making mistakes while still living at home, even if it includes getting drunk or making other adult mistakes. He's still their child. My son will be 19 in only eight more years and I'd hate to think I'd want to just shuck him out of the house at that age just because I feel he is an adult since he is over the age of 18. There's no way I could do that. I'd rather him come home here drunk (hopefully not tho) than to be God knows where doing bad things and potentially getting hurt or killed at such a young age. Yes, 19 is still young to me. Look what happened to that poor Natalie girl in Aruba at 18 years old. I'm sure her mom thought she was a mature adult too.
Erika, mama to three beautiful kids (plus one gestating), and wife to one fantastic man.
Originally Posted by birthpartner
Fathers Day weekend we let him go to the beach with his friend
Originally Posted by PancakeGoddess
yk, I don't think the 18-21 age range is as simple as it used to be.
Making sweeping statements about those kids being "adults" is pretty unreasonable, IMO. Legally they're adults, fine, whatever. But the reality is that the world is complicated and getting more complicated.
their magic birthday. If they seem to need involved parenting at 19, I plan to keep giving it, doing that difficult dance between standing back and stepping
I intend to take things a day at a time with my children forever, not just until in, just as I do with my younger kids.
I do hope that my kids will be making their own choices wrt curfew and outings when they are that age, because I'd rather not get into a power struggle, insisting on compliance that I legally can't demand.
I just don' t think this "he's an adult, he needs to get on his feet and survive" mentality is very helpful or realistic for some kids.
Lisa, lucky mama of Kelly (3/93) , Emma (5/03) , Evan (7/05) , & Jenna (6/09)
Loving my amazing dh, James & forever missing Aaron Ambrose (11/07)
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