Since my dx moved out (and he took his rules and regulations with him!), my family has grown! Ds, almost 19, has his girlfriend spending most weekends with us, while Dd, 17, is either sleeping over at her boyfriend's or he's sleeping over at our house. Recently I've bought two queen-sized beds for my kids, make sure dd uses birth control and that ds and his girlfriend do the same.
On top of all that, my own boyfriend frequently comes for a sleep-over.
Often the six of us sit down for dinner together. We talk, joke, help eachother out with chores, discuss problems. Harmony reigns. And me and my two kids are all on the same wave-length, in the sense that we're all three in love and joyful. On Sundays we all sleep in, each staying in bed with our respective partners way into the afternoon, and when we meet we greet eachother with smiling, glowing, knowing looks.
But... and sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night wondering... is all this kind of crazy? Am I being way too laid back and permissive? Are there other parents of teenagers out there who are this flexible and relaxed about their children's love-lives? Is this going to somehow back-fire big time?
I'd love to receive some thoughts and advice!