Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: Southern California
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LOL, I'm from SoCal, and have been in IL (north suburbs) for the past year and a half.
Here, I see kids w/gameboys at the dinner table; acutally, my inlaws have their son do this (dh's younger brother, he's 13)! And when my ds1, who is 10, goes over there, they have him bring his gameboy! Drives me insane on so many levels. Not only is gamboy at dinner or the mall etc. completely overkill and unnecessary, it's RUDE!
Anyway, we do have a playstation, and a gameboy. But, he is limited to how much time he gets on it. And, he'd much rather be outside or with friends. Where we live now, most of the kids enjoy playing outside, or if indoors with creative stuff (action figures, cars, etc.). I've noticed that the older kids, 9+, do spend an awful lot of time on playstation, while younger kids go outside more. When ds's friend asks him to come over, ds states right away that he can't play ps or watch tv; but they can do something outside or play indoors. Our rule is no ps/tv/computer games until 7pm. On weekends he can use the ps/tv etc. in the morning for a few hours, usually two.
So, advice? Well, we do bend the rules on occassion. If the weather's been crummy and ds has been reading all day, and a friend comes over, sometimes we'll break the 7pm rule and let them play. Usually, though, his friends come over and play in his room, with the dog, outside........the gameboy isn't an issue becasue we don't really allow it. Oh, we do let him play educational computer games (Oregon Trail and such), so sometimes they do that.
It's really hard, though. I think the key is the parents; let them know that you don't want them to bring their gameboy/ps over! Though if the parents are rushing over to deliver it; maybe they wont' be much help. Ugh. I'm not very useful, sorry.
To find like minded kids, try your local park district classes; my ds took chess, art, cooking, etc., and that way he's likely to meet kids who are more into creative stuff.
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