I have 3 kids from my first marriage... they all live with dh & I, and they all love my dh alot.
My ex was very abusive, and the kids all witnessed that.. not to mention the trauma of divorce, a mom who had always been with them working, etc.
Dh and I have been together almost 3 years, and it has been 4 since their father and I split up.
OK, now that I set the backround, my problem:
My 10.5yr old son is making me crazy! Literally.
He is getting into this smart mouth, very disrespectful towards everyone.
He doesn't obey our rules, and he is constantly lying about his school work.
I held him back once (in 1st grade because of the problems at home/effecting him) and he is not flunking.
He got 3 F's on his report card.
To me, that is really bad.
My son has ADHD, but he is on medication for that, and I don't think it's a excuse for his grades.
He is a very smart boy, and the majority of his problem is him not doing his homework.... and to make it worse he lies to me about it. He says he doesn't have homework.. then a few days later he will get a detention for not turning it in.
Monday he had a poster due, my dh and him worked on it ALL weekend, and it looked awesome. He didn't turn it in, I got a note home Wednesday that he had yet another detention for not turning in a poster.
It is like he is intentionally trying to fail.
I am at a loss on what to do. I have SPECIFICALLY asked the teacher to please write a list of their assignments, or to check his after school, and initial it. (Now mind you, he goes to a Catholic school, and we pay 2500.00 a year for this!)
She doesn't do it!
Then to make matters worse, he is standing in our garage yesterday... he picks up a brand new pool stick, looks at my dh and tells him, 'I can break this'. Dh told him not to do it, and he did it anyway.
: DS LOVES to play pool, so I don't understand this at all.
I love my son, I really do, but his attitude lately really is making me crazy. I can't stand him sometimes... and I HATE feeling that way.
Please help me, I really need some advice on how to deal with this whole situation.