Join Date: Jul 2002
Location: the land of the lost
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I'm so sorry your family is going through this issue. I am 5'1 and at her age weighed about the same as her. So I started dieting, and 2 years after beginning dieting was bulimic. That went on for a few years, then worsened into anorexia. Then as an adult, gained a huge amount of weight through pregnancies, again struggled with bulimia and the diet yo-yo. now, I'm overweight but every time I try to lose weight those old behaviors flare up...
So.... I guess in my case my problems with food started when I began dieting. I didn't look bad, in fact, when i see pics of myself then, I think I just look normal. I worked with a nutritionist that specializes in eating disorders a few years back and she sold me on the idea that dieting is bad. The reason as explained to me is that depriving the body of calories lowers the metabolism. so when the person goes back to regular eating, (which you have to do because no one can diet forever) the lower metabolsim makes keeping the weight off impossible. And with each weight gain, then your body defends itself by gaining a few extra pounds as well. So, you freak out and diet even more radically, or exercise, and that starts the disorder.
I'm not saying this will happen to your daughter. I just hope that maybe you can help her avoid this pattern. If I could go back and change what happened to me, I would've exercised more, something enjoyable like a sport or something. I wouldn't have dieted, but would've had healthier choices of foods to choose from instead. Of course that wasn't up to me, my mom did all the shopping. There are probably some really good books on this subject, I just don't know of any.
It's important to note that my parents were not supportive of me in the least. You care about your daughter and are sensitive to her feelings. She is blessed to have your support! Warmly, Heather E
Sahm mom to three lovely girls, and happily married to a great, sweet guy