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This thread could turn in to a support group, easily. My 17 y/o daughter has the same issues. She thinks homework is a huge waste of time, as she gets A's on all her tests and knows all the material. In Saturday's mail we got deficiency notices for Statistics and Physiology - reasons: missing, late, and incomplete homework assignments. Lots of times she even does the work, just does not turn it in. Part of the reason is that she just HATES her high school, and is counting the days until she graduates (60).
What sorts of goals do these kids have for post-HS? Do their schools have any sort of online gradebooks? They can be invaluable to showing them how stupid stuff (not doing/handing in homework) affects their grades - thereby affecting their options post-HS.
My now 15yo used to always have one quarter in one class that he'd pull the missing homework, etc stunt. Using the gradebook, I'd show him exactly how that affected the outcome - his grade. In MS, it wasn't a big deal, except for affecting whether or not he'd be in Honors/AP classes in HS. Which would determine his options once he graduated. Better grades in more challenging classes = more varied options after graduation. He seems to get it.
ME&HE... loving our: dd(18) ~~ds(13) dd(13)~~ dd(10)
If the chips are down, the buffalo is empty.
some people may disagree.
But I was alot like your son in junior high in regards to just 'not wanting' to do homework or lack of motivation.
Taking away privilages did nothing to make me bring the homework home. Something that motivated me was that my Grandma told me she would give me 50$ for an A.
I took this as 50$ PER A so I tried my hardest in every class. Got 2 A's some b's and a so on. So I expected 100$. Well my mom and grandma talked and she meant 50$ total, bummed me out but she still gave me 100$
Worked out that between my mom and grandma they decided 20$ an a from there on out. And litterally that is the ONLY thing that motivated me in school to do homework.
I could pass with d's and c's without opening a book, and that 'was' passing.
Bribery worked on me. don't know what your son is into. Could work out that he gets a Video game report card day for every 3 a's or something wich consolation prizes if he gets close?
Don't know. At that age it really was 'I didn't see the reward in grades' and the diploma college was too far off for me to realize it was just around the corner.