IMO, myspace is not as dangerous as it is hyped up to be (jmo)
She can set her page to private and only allow friends that she knows. You could also get a page yourself and 'friend' her. You could make it fun. You could be involved. I know people have very differing opinions on the subject. Just remember that the media is really down on myspace when I think it can be used as a fun tool for friends to keep in contact. Like I said, jmo.
maybe you can compromise and get her a yahoo or msn IM...with yahoo you can see who she has been talking to and what they have been saying...
there are also a lot of security things now with the main messenger groups (yahoo, aim, etc)...so you could look into that and go with something that works for you...then you can allow her time on the computer and hopefully be able to trust her to do something more...
Homeschooling Ama to boys (ages 10 and 6) and my SoldierGirl who is serving in the US Army, StepMom to three crazy teens. I'm married to the love of my life.
Love is an action word.
Words have power...use them wisely.
Who you are is just enough.
I know this may sound overprotective, but I would rather that than her see something bad. I don't want her to ask me when she gets older why in the world I would let her be exposed to something like you can see on the internet. She has no arguments with our monitoring, she knows we just want her eyes, ears and mind to be safe.
If it were my dd wanting to meet an online friend, I would be more than happy to arrange something as long as her dad or I could be present to make sure the friend was who s/he said s/he was. Age wouldn't necessarily matter, as long as they had been truthful to begin with.
I would be an absolute hypocrite if I didn't let my kids make friends online. That's how I met most of my friends, several of whom I flew across the country to see at one point or another. I'll be taking my whole family to meet an online friend this spring. I've had too many good experiences and want my kids to have the same.
Just be clear with your daughter what your expectations are . . . if you don't want her giving out any information, or if she can get together with her friends when you're around, etc.
Rylie is 7, Ronin is 3.5
I have had my own myspace for over a year and just recently made one for my 12 y/o dd. With the prospect of us moving across the country it is a good way for her to keep in touch and not feel as much like she is leaving everything behind. That said...I have her pw, it's on private and set so no one over 18 or that doesn't know her name or email can talk to or email her. We are each others #1 friend on the list. She asks me when she can check email or myspace and knows I'm watching (I even did the whole DeNiro look from Meet the Parents lol)