My 12 year old dd is being bullied on the bus and was upset about it enough that dh and I have been driving her to/from school every day for the past two weeks. DH is upset because our tax money pays for these buses and gas is so expensive. It's a 30 minute drive each way to her school, so in addition to the cost of gas it's 2 hrs a day of driving. It screws up my younger kids naps and is a real hardship for everyone in the family except the child who we are driving/picking up. She likes being dropped off to socialize for 30 minutes before school starts.
Anyway, this kid on the bus is calling her names and harrassing her, so I decided to call the principal this morning to talk about it. The principal talked to my dd who told her that everything is fine and that she can handle riding the bus for the rest of the school year, which is only 8 days anyway.
I'm very confused as to why this issue causes major meltdowns in our home complete with screaming, threats, sobbing..telling us we will ruin her life if we make her ride the bus and I'm trying to think of a way to talk to her about it that will bring out the truth about what is going on. The buses have tapes with microphones so if something is being said then we will know eventually.
This is a child who has major tantrums (screaming, swearing, sobbing) when even simple dissapointments happen, so part of me is thinking that maybe she really wants to get us to drive her but knows that we won't do it unless there is some real danger to her. Believe me when I say she acts like this over minor things, like someone eating the last of the ice cream or a friend not being able to come over. One time she acted like this cause a store she wanted to go to was closed.
So, I need to somehow figure out if she is being dramatic in order to make us feel like we must drive her to school or if there really is something going on. This isn't the first time I've heard things like this from her and then she tells the principal the opposite.
Any ideas?
Anyway, this kid on the bus is calling her names and harrassing her, so I decided to call the principal this morning to talk about it. The principal talked to my dd who told her that everything is fine and that she can handle riding the bus for the rest of the school year, which is only 8 days anyway.
I'm very confused as to why this issue causes major meltdowns in our home complete with screaming, threats, sobbing..telling us we will ruin her life if we make her ride the bus and I'm trying to think of a way to talk to her about it that will bring out the truth about what is going on. The buses have tapes with microphones so if something is being said then we will know eventually.
This is a child who has major tantrums (screaming, swearing, sobbing) when even simple dissapointments happen, so part of me is thinking that maybe she really wants to get us to drive her but knows that we won't do it unless there is some real danger to her. Believe me when I say she acts like this over minor things, like someone eating the last of the ice cream or a friend not being able to come over. One time she acted like this cause a store she wanted to go to was closed.
So, I need to somehow figure out if she is being dramatic in order to make us feel like we must drive her to school or if there really is something going on. This isn't the first time I've heard things like this from her and then she tells the principal the opposite.
Any ideas?