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#61 of 69 Old 07-13-2007, 02:56 PM
 
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Yeah, I know, common sense right? But cmhotzler seemed to be saying something else entirely. see?

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Thank goodness for the above post! Yes, it is MESSED UP if you let your child see a R-rated movie. They are rated for a reason. Good reasons. Letting a child see a R -rated movie is just plain bad parenting. Just like a person I knew that watched a porno with her 12 year old "to show him and answer questions". Just plain messed up. I am by far not a prude-not religious in the least, and have worked in bar for 20 years-but children don't need to see R-rated movies. PERIOD. Unless of course they are a baby, volume turned down and they are sleeping. But to let a 2-12 yr. old watch a movie with explicit sex or violence is bad parenting. I realize alot of posts henceforth will be from angry people arguing about how they are great parents and let their young kids see R-rated movies--but the evidence of their neglect will be visited upon us in years to come. Children DO NOT have the ability to filter out all the crap. Lets take a look shall we at the kids in REAL LIFE R-rated movies (in Iraq for example) (or Darfur) or anywhere war and genocide is going on, they suffer from major problems from seeing the stuff. I believe in natural parenting, but good God, there is limit where people have to say enough is enough...

So if she is going to post something so rude and ridiculous, I think its only fair to respond in kind.

Oh, to equate an R rated movie with a porno? Obviously someone isn't watching the right porno.
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But to let a 2-12 yr. old watch a movie with explicit sex or violence is bad parenting.

So what is it that magically makes it OK at 13?


I would think it has a lot to do with the maturity of the child in question, and that the parent should know better than some board if their 10 year old or 13 year old can handle a particular movie

nothing more to say I guess :
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So what is it that magically makes it OK at 13?


I would think it has a lot to do with the maturity of the child in question, and that the parent should know better than some board if their 10 year old or 13 year old can handle a particular movie
Well no, it doesn't automatically become ok at 13, but probably it's better than at 5 or 6 or 7. A mature 13 year old might be ok to see a 15 or perhaps even a 18 rated film, depending on the subject/content. I don't think you could ever say the same for a young child.

I'm really not sure what the big deal is here. However, I'm really surprised that a board that is so anti violence is so pro letting your toddler watch someone blow someone else's head off.
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Yes it's good to discuss issues but I honestly can't see what a young child (not a teen) gains from seeing explicit sex scenes or graphic violence.
There are a lot of things in life where all a person gains is pleasure. If my kids want to watch a movie because they think they're going to enjoy it, that's good enough for me. If they want to come see something with us because they want to chow down on some popcorn and don't care about what we're seeing, that's cool too.

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A mature 13 year old might be ok to see a 15 or perhaps even a 18 rated film, depending on the subject/content. I don't think you could ever say the same for a young child.
I don't think you could ever say what every young child is capable of seeing/handling. Everyone is so different. I get that many young kids are sensitive to violence and such. In those cases it makes sense for parents and kids to work together to make choices that aren't overwhelming. It's not parents and kids choosing something non-violent that I have a problem with. It's the idea that no kids should see anything other than a G or PG movie until they are teens that I take issue with.

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I'm really not sure what the big deal is here.
The big deal is that I don't want someone I don't even know deciding that my kids can't go with me to see an PG 13 or R rated movie if we've decided it works for us.

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FWIT, I took my 8, yes 8 yo dd to the midnight showing. The worst thing that happened, was that she fell asleep through the middle of it! It was so more mellow than GOF, which, I also took her to see on her 6/7th? birthday. In a few weeks, I'm going to take my 8yo AND 4 yo back to OOTP. Because they/we love harry Potter and I know what they can handle. There are choice R movies that I feel my 8 yo can handle. There are certain pg13 movies that my 4yo can watch. They are not overly sensitive and love a good scary movie.

It's not about thinking its ok to let a toddler "watch someone's head get blown off" not at all. It's about being a PARENT and knowing what your child can or can't handle. Without letting someone who doesn't even know you judge or dictate what you let your child see.
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Hey, did anyone dress up? I was too chicken to wear my witchy hat and I instantly regretted not wearing it when we got to the theater...lots of people were dressed up.

My dd is going to go see the movie again this weekend!

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This thread ahs really gotten off topic. LOL
I do want to say, that I do think people can overestimate what their kids can handle at young ages. I know that I have thought my 5 year old could handle alot more then he really could and have had to change what he can view because of that. I really do take issue with little little kids seeing serious violence. Just because they are not having night mares of freaking in the theater doesn't mean it is good for them to see that stuff.
But this isn't what the OP was asking. She wanted to know if if was weird to take a kid to a late movie... which IMO it isn't. LOL

OP I hope you all had a great time. My dd and her girlfriends are seeing it sunday for dd's 13 bday.

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This thread ahs really gotten off topic. LOL
Yeah, and it's mostly my fault! : The issue that came up is an important one for me so when it pops up I run with it. I do apologize for tweaking this thread though. It's fine with me if there is another thread for the other issue.


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My dd and her girlfriends are seeing it sunday for dd's 13 bday

What a fun birthday! Happy day to her.

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