Originally Posted by karina5
I thought you said that they might not be upset by that and should therefore decide for themselves....???? (I'm summarizing, and realize those weren't your exact words).
I was being a little snarky about this last night. I put that little
after my post.
I am a parent who does not punish and I am very open with my kids about everything. We make decisions together...but sometimes I have said "Not healthy for you, cutie pie" to my small children. I call that excersing my right to be my authentic parental self. I would never negotiate over whether a 5 or 6 yr old could watch a beheading on YouTube. Once the images are there, they can never be un-there.
No amount of talking to a child about murder is going to make the image of blood spurting all over the place go away. They will be a part of her childhood-- and for some children this won't offer benefits.
For some people what children witness in media doesn't matter...it's part of life. For me, it matters whether my small child grows up feeling somewhat safe in the world we live in. I don't see the point of panic and worry before you can tie your own shoes. I thank the heavens I don't live in a tent in Darfur and don't have to witness my children being gassed by Nazis.
So, ok, I am not good at snark and sarcasm sometimes. I don't feel comfortable with some things, and I won't say I am just because it's currently fashionable to not 'shelter' children from media. When I think of all the ridiculous parenting advice given in the past-- from Watson to SKinner etc etc., I have to roll my eyes. We won't know whether this current trend to raise children as though they had the judgement of fully grown adults is going to create emotionally healthy adults.
I have to continue to rely on *my* best judgement as a thoughtful parent. That means sometimes I am simply honest and say "No cutie pie, that's not something I think is healthy and will help you grow".
My kids will be able to identify their baggage "My mother said no sometimes", which will cut down the number of hours of therapy they will have to pay for.