DS is in 6th grade. I do not like his school, his teacher or this board. I am rural and there are no other options for a brick and mortar school.
I have asked off and on over the last 2 years if he wanted to HS (I would ask this when he complained about something....really, just to remind him it was/is an option)
This year has NOT gotten off to a good start.
-neither he nor I like his teacher - she is a control freak, and too stern.
-I have asked for gifted testing from the school board- and been turned down. The school board and I disagree on whether it is necessary - and sadly I cannot make them test him. I will arrange for private testing. DS may also have a writing disability known as dysgraphia
-Academically, school is a wash. He gets B and C (the giftedness and disability cancel eachother out - he gets everything "right" but looses point for disorganisation, not explaining his work, occasional illegability.)
-Ds goes to school, by his own admission, to see his friends.
So....a few weeks ago, I asked (as Ds was complaining once again about school) why
he went. He said he was going to school this year for the class trip!
Fast forward to 2 days ago. I had a snotty email from the board regarding my request for testing, his teacher had been her usually stern /controlling self, and I had had enough. I said "I do not like your school. If I bring you on a trip, will you agree to HS?"
Yesterday, he said yes!
However, now I am starting to have second thoughts
-should I bribe my son (even though I think he will do better outside of school, and if a trip (which is hardly a hardship, lol
) is what it takes, so be it?
-Have I peer-pressured (mommy-pressured) him into doing something he really does not want to do?
Please note, I really do want to HS him, and I think it is to his ultimate benefit, but I want him to want it. Not agree to out of pressure or due to a bribe.
I know the answer is to talk to him, and DH is going to bring him out for hot chocolate tonight to further discuss it, but I do not think DS wants to talk to me about it. Ds is sensitive to "overkill" on issues.
Opinions? Advice? Did I goof (be honest, but gentle, please)?