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Anyone got any good book suggestions on dealing with a pre-teen girl????

I am going nuts and really feel like i am failing my little girl! : Her emotions are raging and she is just out of control lately. She just seems miserable constantly.

Yesterday she got sent home from school for spraying hair conditioner in another girls face! My child has never been sent home by the principal! I just see this spiraling more and more out of control as her teen years get closer. She is 8, turning 9 at the beginning of Feb.
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Anyone got any good book suggestions on dealing with a pre-teen girl????

I am going nuts and really feel like i am failing my little girl! : Her emotions are raging and she is just out of control lately. She just seems miserable constantly.

Yesterday she got sent home from school for spraying hair conditioner in another girls face! My child has never been sent home by the principal! I just see this spiraling more and more out of control as her teen years get closer. She is 8, turning 9 at the beginning of Feb.
HUgs to you, momma!!
Are there any major changes at home? A move, death in the family, etc? Do you think she's depressed??

I don't have a lot of suggestions on books .... I'm reading Odd Girl Out, but it's a bit scary.

Hope you get some answers here .... hang in there!

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HUgs to you, momma!!
Are there any major changes at home? A move, death in the family, etc? Do you think she's depressed??

I don't have a lot of suggestions on books .... I'm reading Odd Girl Out, but it's a bit scary.

Hope you get some answers here .... hang in there!

Thanks! She does have a new sister (3 months old)...but I am not sure if that is it or not. It may be a contributing factor. I think I am just going to make extra time for her and try to get her to talk. I am just looking for some kind of book that might help me/inspire me on the subject.

Thanks for your reply!
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Start charting good and bad days. You might see a pattern. Her body is gearing up for puberty--it can take years.
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I love Liberated Parents, Liberated Children by Faber and Mazlish.

http://www.amazon.com/Liberated-Pare.../dp/0380711346

It's about kids in general, not just pre-teen girls. It's great for thinking about how we talk to our children.

but everything has pros and cons  shrug.gif

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The American Girl books are really good. There is one on the care and keeping of emotions, I believe, that would address your concerns. It is well worth checking into.
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I really liked The Wonder of Girls by Michael Gurian.
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The American Girl books are really good. There is one on the care and keeping of emotions, I believe, that would address your concerns. It is well worth checking into.
my dd1 got those for her 8th birthday & they have been really great. i got her the book & there is also a guided journal as well, so it gives the girls a place to start & shows them how to give their emotions a name. it also gave me a "starting point" with which to talk to my incredibly introverted daughter. HUGS to you....trust me, i know how difficult this is for you all right now.
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If you are looking for a book for you I would suggest raising ophelia maybe you could read it now and you and she can read it together down the road.
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OK sorry edit:

The book is called The Case against Adolescence by a Dr. Epstein.

And I have read Queen Bee Wannabees which i found thought provoking but sad.
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my dd1 got those for her 8th birthday & they have been really great. i got her the book & there is also a guided journal as well, so it gives the girls a place to start & shows them how to give their emotions a name.

My daughter is also 8 and things have been tough. We are giving dd the book, journal and a mood ring for the holidays.
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