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#1 of 66 Old 12-15-2007, 12:39 AM - Thread Starter
 
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We had to release him to an in patient facility. It was very very ugly and I feel like a peice of glass, broken and sharp and raw.
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I'm sorry, Mama. I hope you all find the help you need
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It's hard whenyou have to make that choice. I had my son admitted into the children's mental health ward when he was almost 6 years old. It was only for 2 weeks but I felt so horrible and like such a failure doing it. IN the end it was the best thing for him and he got the help he needed that I had been unable to give him at that point. I hope you find the same results with your son and that you and he can heal and feel better about this choice.

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I am so sorry. (((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))0
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I am so sorry you are going through such a difficult time.

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I am really sorry for what you are going through mama
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: to you for doing what must have been nearly impossible. I hope that you also get some help with your feelings during this very difficult time.

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I am sorry dear. I hope all turns out okay for you and you find some peace.
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I'm sorry. I hope he gets the help he needs.

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My thoughts are with you during this most difficult time.
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I haven't been there, but I've been close. You are very, very brave.

I'm so, so sorry that this happened and also hope that you have someone you can talk to about what YOU are going through right now.
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I can't imagine what you are going through but I'm sending good thoughts your way.

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You may feel bad but if this is the best choice, then what more can you do
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I'm so sorry you're going through this.

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Many hugs to you. I'm so sorry. I really hope he gets what he needs, and that you have some good support around you.

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I hope that you are getting some counseling too. It can't hurt.
My youngest brother was committed when he was a teen, too. It's hard. But if it helps in the end, it help, yk?

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Thinking of you.
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I am so sorry and I will be thinking of you both
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So Sorry Mama, I hope it helps him.
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You poor sweetie. s to you.

I've been listening to a fellow mom at my son's school talk about similiar issues. They had to release their son to inpatient care also, he is 5. It has really been horrible for their family, as I am certain it is for yours.

You are not alone dear mama.


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I am very, very sorry to hear this.
Lots of love to both your, your son, and your family during this tough time.
Here is hoping that this will be a turning point.

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I'm so sorry!! I wish you all the best.
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I hope he gets the help he needs.
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Thanks so much, everyone. It is so warning to see people here offering support and hugs and words of kindness for little ole me and my family. Very humbling.

I saw him yesterday, to fill out the forms to allow the facility temporary "custody". He went through the expected stages of asking to be taken home, then begging, then blaming, then yelling and arguing, and then things got very ugly. I was escorted out and he was semi-restrained as he was trying to charge me. I stayed calm the entire time and was loving but firm, "You need to be here right now. I love you too much to let this opportunity for help slip us by". etc.

It was bad. I felt so broken. I do know that this is the absolute right thing for him and our family but it's a crappy thing to live through. There is so much guilt, pain, sadness, and fear. I have had one of those years that no one imagines having....really. And this is icing on the cake.

I want him to be better. I know its going to be a tough road. But man, I think back to taking him this teeny little cherub, all of 6 pounds. His spirit has always been love and light. You just wonder how you got here.
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Thanks so much, everyone. It is so warning to see people here offering support and hugs and words of kindness for little ole me and my family. Very humbling.

I saw him yesterday, to fill out the forms to allow the facility temporary "custody". He went through the expected stages of asking to be taken home, then begging, then blaming, then yelling and arguing, and then things got very ugly. I was escorted out and he was semi-restrained as he was trying to charge me. I stayed calm the entire time and was loving but firm, "You need to be here right now. I love you too much to let this opportunity for help slip us by". etc.

It was bad. I felt so broken. I do know that this is the absolute right thing for him and our family but it's a crappy thing to live through. There is so much guilt, pain, sadness, and fear. I have had one of those years that no one imagines having....really. And this is icing on the cake.

I want him to be better. I know its going to be a tough road. But man, I think back to taking him this teeny little cherub, all of 6 pounds. His spirit has always been love and light. You just wonder how you got here.
Oh my, poor poor momma.
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Sending you and your family love and light
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