Thanks for posting this here. I think Life With Teens is a great place to post such a question. I responded over on Parenting Issues when I first saw your question. Since it seems you are getting some great responses over there, I'm going to go ahead and close this thread so we don't get confused LOL. I've found that double posts tend to contribute to forum congestion. I hope you don't mind.
I'm pro-adoption reform, but not anti-adoption.