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|The older one used to love astronomy and biology until her mother drove it into her that Barbies and Lip gloss were cooler than planets. Being pretty and being popular is more valued that being smart and witty and self reliant.|
Sadly yes. I WISH I could say I was joking.
My BIL's wife actually refers to them as "the smart one" (although recently over the last few yeras it has faded from the smart one to "the social butterfly") and the "pretty one" - to their faces!!! And has since they were toddlers!!!
Both are beautiful, in different ways. Both are incredibly brilliant, in different ways.
But they are encouraged to be weak, flighty, simpering girls. Disney Princesses, Brittney Spears, and Hannah Montana are their role models. Seriously.
I just wish they were encouraged (by someone besides me and DH) to be strong, beautiful, brilliant, outspoken, self assured women-in-the-making.
Being head cheerleader would be more important to their parents than being valedictorian :
We get them stuff like books and microscopes for Xmas, while their parents get them Cell phones and Hannah Montana sing-a-long kits for the TV. I just don't get it.
I must say I do enjoy annoying my ILs by getting the girls educational gifts (that the girls enjoy!) and especially enjoy their horrified responses to the gender bending toys we supply DS with (a play kitchen, toy vacuum, male cabbage patch kid doll, dress up clothes, etc). THey always get something super commercial, all battery operated, and sports themed for DS - which always gets returned and exchanged for a nice open ended, enriching toy. LOL
My 12 yo dd1 has a subscription to Discovery Girls, and has for a few years. She loves it.
|Wanna borrow DD to take over to their place? She'd be a great role model. Refuses to be a 'typical' girl. Last time someone brought it up with her (in the question of "why can't you be more of a girl?") she replied with "What do you think I am? A cat? Can't be more of a girl then having two X chromosomes."
I commend you on continued contact, I'm not sure I'd be able to stomach that.
The one who used to love biology and astronomy might do great with a science mag, this is your chance to rekindle the desire. The lack of common sense could be that she's been bombarded with her parents ideas of what she should be for too long.
The sea monkey has my money.
Originally Posted by kraftykathy
how about new moon?
my dd loves this one. maybe this one might get past their parents and still show them that girls are valued for so much more.