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#1 of 8 Old 11-21-2003, 08:16 PM - Thread Starter
 
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My dd is probably fine. I am just so worried about her right now!! She went to a movie with her male friend. They were going to walk to a nearby mall after that and then call my dh to pick them up. Well, it seems like it has been too long. We are busy at work and you would think I wouldn't worry. BUT I DO!!!!!

I am sure she is fine. How do all of you stop from worrying?? My dd is a very responsible 15 year old. I just worry about really weird things that really don't make sense!!! WHY DO I DO IT TO MYSELF????
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Could you use your connection to the State Patrol to monitor from a distance? I'd be tempted!

I am prone to worry. Sometimes I talk myself down by telling myself I will be able to handle anything that might happen, however horrible. I also 'pray', of sorts, and ask for protection for my child. Since really, it's all out of my control.

This is a lifelong thing for any mom, imo. Releasing our children and knowing we will always be prone to worry. We love them so much. Like that phrase about living with one's heart outside one's body upon becoming a mom.
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Well, she was fine! And very offended by my worrying!!!

Thanks, wettowels! It all seems so silly to me now!! But, when I am in the middle of it I get CRAZY!!!!!

Yes, maybe my dh can use his connections.................:LOL

I like your suggestions on handling the worries and I think you are soooooooooooo right on about it being a lifelong illness.....
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Glad to hear that she was alright and you crossed another bridge in mothering, surely to be repeated many times. It's hard.

I know I can get insane with worrying. I start climbing the walls in some kind of primal freak out.

Do you remember that song a couple years ago with this guy saying all sorts of advice with the refrain, 'trust me about the sunscreen'? In it, he says, 'worry, but realize that worrying is as effective as solving algebra by chewing gum.' Something like that. And what I always remember is him saying how the things we worry so much about rarely happen, but it's the random Tuesday afternoon when we get that call...

Which is both reassuing and frightening so once again we're back to 'no control'. Which sucks!!
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Do you remember that song a couple years ago with this guy saying all sorts of advice with the refrain, 'trust me about the sunscreen'?
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That is the song that made me REALLY!!!!! want to floss!!!
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That is the song that made me REALLY!!!!! want to floss!!!
Did you know that regular flossing can add 6 years to your life? I wonder how/who figured that out! :LOL
I was just lying in bed this morning wondering what I'm going to do when dd gets old enough to date! (I know-she's not even 6 mos. old yet!-But it'll happen!!)
I figured that we will have a Global Positioning Satellite chip on her person so we can keep track of her whereabouts at all times!!!
It's scary though, more so for me with my girl than my boy. I guess it's because of everything I went through as a young woman.
I remind myself too that worry doesn't solve the problems of tomorrow but robs the strength out of today.
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Thanks! myrhhmaid!!
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As a mother to teens I worry way more then when my kids where babies or toddlers.
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