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#1 of 9 Old 01-29-2007, 05:43 PM - Thread Starter
 
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This is my second... and even though I am excited it just doesn't feel real. When I was pg with dd that was ALL I THOUGHT ABOUT. It was pregnancy/labor/birth brain for 9 straight months... and all though I do think about it I feel I should be much more excited right now. Before I knew I was pregnant I was all hyped up about learning more about homebirth and looking forward to my 'next pregnancy' and then it became reality and I just feel... numb.

Granted we have a lot going on and I don't have anyone I can tell/talk to who would be really thrilled for me and supportive of the decisions I am making (which is a main reason we haven't told anyone) but I just wish I was connecting a little better. I want to look forward to this birth, meeting this little person, and normally I am a HUGE birth junkie, but right now every thing feels a bit flat.

Maybe it will get better when I start to show ( I'm 7 weeks without any symptoms really so maybe that adds to this disconnected feeling)... I don't know...

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I'm kind of the same...super excited of course, but it doesn't seem real.

I think having our first appointment and ultrasound this friday will help, and it's also been hard because we're waiting until around Valentine's Day to tell our family. We wanted to tell them in a cute way, so I made some Valentine cards that will double as pregnancy announcements with an ultrasound picture.

I haven't really been able to talk about my pregnancy except for with DH since no one knows yet, so it's kind of like it's not really happening.

But like you said, with my first it was ALL I could think or talk about. With this one I have a lot going on with a toddler and doing stuff around the house, so it's not the center of my universe right now

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I felt this way with my last two pregnancies. For this one, it seemed like the moment ds was born I couldn't wait to be pregnant with my third. But now that I finally am pregnant, I almost feel like, oh no...what have I done.

It's hard to describe. Ultimately I am glad that I'm pregnant.

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I'm experiencing this too. I can't believe 4 weeks have flown by already.
Last time I was obsessed. Calendars, books-it was always on my mind.
This time I have a 3 yo and I'm not sick. I can easily forget about it, whereas last time I was puking many many times/day. Kinda hard to forget why, YK?

My neighbor said the exact same thing about her 2nd pregnancy.
I think it's very normal. No need to worry or feel guilty.
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I'm feeling very disconnected as well. My first two pgs were planned, well in advance. THis one was a complete surprise, I had already gotten rid of all of my baby stuff except when my ds is still wearing, this pg will push us into a family of 4 and require a mini van, I am facing an impending lay off, and my little guy just turned 1. I can't seem to get excited at all.

My first pg was planned hospital birth. My second was a planned homebirth turned hospital transport after home for 3.5 days with a broken water. I used to say I wanted to get pg again - not because I wanted another baby but because I wanted a chance to have a birth at home. Now I can't even get excited about that. In fact, I'm considering going to the hospital just so I don't have to shell out the 3K in cash for the homebirth that the insurance won't cover.

I really WANT to feel connected to this baby and excited about the pg. I think it will be easier during the second trimester. They we will feel better physically and feel the baby move. Those are always exciting times!
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Yes--I agree. When we can feel the baby move, I think we'll feel differently.
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This is my 5th pg in a year, after 4 1st tri. m/cs. So I'm thinking about the pgcy constantly, but I'm also guarded about it. I'm focusing on getting past milestones to make it into my 2nd trimester, and then I'll start relaxing.

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This is my 5th pg in a year, after 4 1st tri. m/cs. So I'm thinking about the pgcy constantly, but I'm also guarded about it. I'm focusing on getting past milestones to make it into my 2nd trimester, and then I'll start relaxing.
I feel the same way after 2 mc's last year.

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I feel the exact same way. With my first, I was obsessed with looking at websites about development and all of that. Obsessed with all things baby. I think it's just not as thrilling the second time around because 1. You have another child to take care of and 2. You've been through a pregnancy before so everything isn't brand new.

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