|View Poll Results: How long is your DP taking off when baby is born?|
|Not taking off at all||1||1.85%|
|day of the birth only (1 day)||2||3.70%|
|a week and a half||3||5.56%|
|> 6 weeks||2||3.70%|
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This time I think he's just going to take two weeks. We just can't afford any more.
ETA: Oops! I didn't realize this was a DDC! I hope I didn't mess up your poll!
Last time he took a week, and it didn't seem like enough time. I'd love for him to take 3 or even 4, but that's just not realistic.
My mom is coming for 2w after that, and I sincerely *hope* that having her there will be helpful. We can get on each other's nerves after a few days.
I'm hoping I go a little late, and then in November is Tgiving, and then Cmas, and then NYE...
mom of (8) (5) (3) and born at home on Christmas day!
mama to two amazing children son 10/27/07 and daughter 07/07/11
HeatherB ~ mama to 3 wonderful boys: 03/02; 09/04; 09/07 - and Eliana, 11/13/10!
Founder of Houston Birth Alternatives: Be Informed, Encouraged, Supported birth support group and aspiring midwife.
When I had DS he had 2 weeks off. I was in hospital for the first 8 days so we only had 1 week at home together.
If I end up going the week in hospital again I want my 2 weeks worth of DH especially because I'm going to need help with a newborn and a 2 year old
We're lucky here in Australia because we get 20 working days off as holidays. DH says that when he was in the US the standard was 10 days off.
He took 1 week when our son was born. We had just moved to a new city 4 weeks before the birth and he was new to his position (tho he had sick/annual leave with the company). I treasure that week-long BabyMoon we had as a new family. :
-zak- Mama to three fantastic sons - 2005, 2007 & 2010 and expecting a daughter February 2012!
As happy as I was about moving back close to family, that was the one drawback to the timing.
Mom to DS(14), DS(12), DD(9), DS(6), DS (4), and DS(2)
Since then we've discussed it and he's reserving at least 1/2 his vaca days (5) for the birth. We've decided to stretch those days by him taking every other day off... like he'd work M, W, F and take T, TH off - that way 5 vacation days would be spread out over 2 1/2 weeks. I figure that way when he's at work, I can remind myself that tomorrow he'll be home and I'll have help. It's the, "I can do anything for a day if I realize I don't have to do it forever" thought to get me through the day.
When DS was born, DH had just started a new job. I had a sched C/S on Wed, he took Wed & Thurs, worked Fri (I was still in hosp) and then we had the weekend. I was discharged Sun and the plan was for him to go back to work on Mon, but Sun night was so bad that he stayed home - DS was up ALL NIGHT!! Fortunately I wasn't completely on my own though... we had a young girl who would come over at 6:30 am (when DH leaves for work) and just hang out in case I needed anything for the first week. She was great - wouldn't accept any type of payment, and it made me feel a lot less scared. Then my Mom would show up around 12 or so and stay till 3. Then DH would get home about 4:15. After that first week, I was on my own - the good news was that DS was born 10/26 - so we had an election day "holiday", Thanksgiving, Christmas & New Years.
I'm bummed and wish he could take 2 weeks but it is what it is.....
I love having company the first few weeks, it is nice to have someone to talk to. PLus, with 2 at home, dh will need to help take care of the kids.
Dh, Me , DD 10 , DD 7 , DD 4
We , , , , not in that order
I just like trying to get back to a routine soon after babe is born and can't have hubby hanging around teh house. One thing that's going to help this time is that he'll be on 2nd shift when our little one comes so I might be able to sleep in a bit more often. He'll stay home for a week this time. Mainly because he's only got 2 wks vacation left and his mom is planning to visit early Dec. No friggin' way I'm going to be alone with that woman. He needs to be home when his mother is here, or else I'm taking a vacation at my sisters
We live next door to my parents though and DD will be 8 when Pandora gets here, so she is a great help around the house and with younger children. I also am very use to having several infants to take care of at once ( I use to work daycare with a 4 babes to one adult ratio ) one babe will feel like a breeze.
We'll have more help, though. MIL will stay around for a week or so, my aunt is going to come visit the first week of November, and my mom will probably find some time to spend with us. I want him home for bonding more than anything. And to give DD the attention she won't be getting from me.
I'm actually thinking of asking my dad if he could come help with the boys after dh goes back to work. he has so much time and never uses it I might as well use him
Depending on how things go when the new baby is born, he might start working from home during that time so that he won't have to use up all his vacation. When DS was born, he was planning to take 4 weeks but ended up taking about 2 1/2 weeks and then working from home for a few weeks. But we feel that it's good to have that 4 week cushion in case the new baby is higher needs than DS was, or in case the transition is difficult for DS or us.
This is a full-on partnership with the baby-raising and I expect him to do a lot work. And he will be the primary caregiver once I graduate in the Spring and start working full-time. It works out great for us!
Alicia + James = Gabriel (9), Uriah (7), Ayla (5), Noah (3), Azriel (1), and due Oct. 2011
DH is self-employed and we are unfortunately having this baby during the busy season.
Now that my friends have had kids I think that I can count on them to come and take DD for a couple hours here and there to help out for the first few weeks at least. And I am stocking the freezer!
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