Now I am a third time mom, but he is a first time dad. Dh is not the most nurturing or lovey dovey type and I always thought that he would sort of change that with the arrival of dd. Well, he certainly tries, but I think he is a bit fearful and certainly inexperienced and now DD is showing a clear preference for me over him. She even calms quicker for both of her sisters who are 11 and 7 ! She cries every time he picks her up.So when she starts screaming and getting worked up, it is just much easier for me to take her, instead of letting him learn how to deal with it. I EBF so I can't really leave her for very long for him to learn to calm her,plus I know she would just cry and he would get all upset which is what has happened the few times I have tried it.
All this doesn't really bother me that much except for when I am feeling very burned out and just need a break- there is not really anyone to turn to as i have no family or close friends here.
I keep telling myself he will be more relaxed with time and when she is older and a little more responsive since he certainly likes to play and interact...he is n't being deliberately obtuse or anything but it's just hard.
How does your LO like your dh/dp? What do they do to help out with the baby?