That said, I would still love to have a large family through adoption, provided--and this sounds so bougeois!--we had some sort of domestic help. Part of me feeling sane as a mom is having a manageable home, and right now that task seems way too daunting on my own.
I have 4 and thought it would be no big deal, but my standards in child care and housekeeping have changed since I had my older kids. I am seriously stressed about never having enough time to do anything.
I LOVE this child.. OMG do I love this child!!!! I just would like help cleaning the house while I enjoy him forever and ever. I am always torn between holding a sleeping baby just a minute longer and letting go so I can pick up the mess. And when he needs me and I am only with him, I feel guilty because my mind wanders to the lists of things to do and to the boys.
And HONESTLY if anyone tells me not to worry about the house... UGH! I know that. I do. I have relaxed my standards since getting pregnant, and the house suffers (a lot!) but my mental health and stress levels are directly connected to a clean house.
This house is SO SMALL. If I can't stay 100% on top of cleaning, decluttering and keeping the boys active on putting things away, all functions of and around the house are chaotic for everyone. We can't move, sit, etc.. because things pile up too easily.
"Well behaved women rarely make history"
We have three boys, my ss who is almost 13, my 18 month old and our new little babe. We are really happy; although very stressed out at times...a toddler and a teenager all at once. We have discussed having one more and have not decided which way to go yet. If we do have one more I would prefer it to be sooner rather than later. I want the little boys to all grow up together close in age.
robina. unschooling mama and midwifery student. building my nest with my husband, our daughter (born at home 11/07), our son (home waterbirth 5/10), and our newest little girl (born at home 4/13)!
We'll see...I'm only 31 so time is on my side.
I also have a nephew who is 11 months older than Pixie that I am very close to and would like to be available for should he ever need me- either as a parent or financially. His father is not in the picture and his mother is not the most stable (emotionally or financially) and there may come a time when I need to be a bigger part of his life than I currently am, and that would be fine with me.
I always wanted a house full of kids, but I separated from my first husband I was still pregnant with Pix, and of course, didn't have any more children until Peri. If we ever want more, I think it will be via adoption, and I would adopt a child who was older, or at least at an age between the 2 girls ages.
We always said we wanted two, plus an option. If things go well with two, we'll consider actively trying for more. I'll be 30 next year, so we have some time to decide, but not unlimited amounts, especially because I want to wait at least two years to try for #2.
Loving this babe tho! And already looking forward to # 2 even if it won't be right away.
we agreed to have six
I love being pregnant, a LOT. the only thing i don't like is that last month of wondering, waiting, and waddling.
I don't mind labor & birth (except when they're actually happening.)
My amnesia HAS kicked in already. I remember being so miserable last week but I don't recall why??? AF? latching? honestly, I think this was one of my best recoveries. Today I feel great.
I have to convince myself that all this babymaking sucks, so i can embrace the next season in my life. it's supposed to be early retirement.
this baby graduates high school in 2026. maybe earlier since we're homeschooling. Still, 2026 is a long time away.
Gotta add: I am so thankful for our little "accident". I know 3 was the better number, he turned our plans upside down but gosh, when I look at my baby I have the same sense of "knowing" like when I knew dh was the right guy and my soulmate. Absolutely crazy, how this child was meant to be.
We are seriously done now, tho. Snipped
Right now we're trying to decide on what to do, so nothing is set in stone yet. I'd really like to try and time the next baby better so it's a spring baby. DH has mentioned that he doesn't want to wait too long though, so maybe we'll just skip brith control altogether like we did after DD.
DH says we are. I'm 90% sure I agree with him. We're waiting a year before we do anything permanent, though.
Neither of us is hung up on the fact that we have two girls and no boys. We're happy, very lucky and very blessed.
boogiemonster | the hairy scotsman | anna the elf | lucy the sprite | wee faerie faye, born 01/02/11
Momma to K ('01), E ('03) and A ('07)
Proud Gestational Surrogate to N (15/01/15)